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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 665600" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Yes, I live it.</p><p></p><p>Except as the months go by there is less and less of this.</p><p></p><p>He sticks his tongue out at me, so I am less afraid and defensive. That helps. So that I do not see everything through the lens that I am at fault and responsible. How he was able to see this, I do not know.</p><p></p><p>Then, I am less <em>on him.</em> Like this job he is doing. I swear, if he is earning $1 an hour with how low he bid, I would be surprised. And still mistreated and degraded. In the past I would have gotten upset. Which he would feel to be demeaning and disrespecting and controlling and undermining of him.</p><p></p><p>Now I keep my mouth shut and stay in a supporting role.</p><p></p><p>The one thing I said was yesterday. This stupid Argentine guy got a really phenomenal price on his floor. Like eighty cents a sq foot to install a custom tile floor. Delicate tile. Beautiful, custom work. And unbeknownst to M his helper did not fasten some baseboards well. And the Argentine withheld $250 of the final payment so that M would be forced to redo the defective work.</p><p>This insulted M because he does the work from pride. He will work for nothing to do the job correctly. He does not need to be strong armed.</p><p></p><p>So I said, instead of withholding the money he should give you a two thousand dollar tip. He got work that was worth 15k to 20k for 2k. Does he not see that? </p><p></p><p>And M said. That has to come from the client's own will to do the right thing. That he was going to talk to him. Because he does not like the flavor of this right now. (I think he is referring to being held to do the work...by the withholding of money.) Because actually M is the type of person to basically do the work...and let the man keep the money. To show who he is. That he cannot be controlled or diminished.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 665600, member: 18958"] Yes, I live it. Except as the months go by there is less and less of this. He sticks his tongue out at me, so I am less afraid and defensive. That helps. So that I do not see everything through the lens that I am at fault and responsible. How he was able to see this, I do not know. Then, I am less [I]on him.[/I] Like this job he is doing. I swear, if he is earning $1 an hour with how low he bid, I would be surprised. And still mistreated and degraded. In the past I would have gotten upset. Which he would feel to be demeaning and disrespecting and controlling and undermining of him. Now I keep my mouth shut and stay in a supporting role. The one thing I said was yesterday. This stupid Argentine guy got a really phenomenal price on his floor. Like eighty cents a sq foot to install a custom tile floor. Delicate tile. Beautiful, custom work. And unbeknownst to M his helper did not fasten some baseboards well. And the Argentine withheld $250 of the final payment so that M would be forced to redo the defective work. This insulted M because he does the work from pride. He will work for nothing to do the job correctly. He does not need to be strong armed. So I said, instead of withholding the money he should give you a two thousand dollar tip. He got work that was worth 15k to 20k for 2k. Does he not see that? And M said. That has to come from the client's own will to do the right thing. That he was going to talk to him. Because he does not like the flavor of this right now. (I think he is referring to being held to do the work...by the withholding of money.) Because actually M is the type of person to basically do the work...and let the man keep the money. To show who he is. That he cannot be controlled or diminished. [/QUOTE]
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