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Situation with gfg32 has gone "beserkier"
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<blockquote data-quote="Sabine" data-source="post: 620154" data-attributes="member: 17639"><p>difficult child keeps writing these emails that specify "do not respond", yet he obviously wants a response (probably not verbal, just some money sent along without opinions..)</p><p></p><p>About this point I would write him one last text. It would be something along these lines:</p><p>----------------------------------------------------------------</p><p>"You are our son. We have always loved you dearly, and will always continue to love you. Raising children is an enormous responsibility, with emotional, time, and financial commitments. When a child turns 18, the responsibility, time, and financial commitments are removed from the parent's shoulders and placed upon the young adult's. The emotional ties remain forever. </p><p></p><p>You are now an adult, and as such: you are responsible for yourself. You need to take the time to take care of yourself. You have to find your financial way in the world. These are no longer our responsibilities. If you should become a father some day, you will come to understand these truths.</p><p></p><p>You asked that we listen to YOU. We did. We heard you rehash old hurts from your childhood. We heard you ask us for money. We can do nothing to change the past, and we have no money for you now or in the future. We have listened, but there is nothing for us to do. You are on your own."</p><p>-----------------------------------------------------------------</p><p>And at this point I would either block his texts or phone calls, change my phone number, or something..</p><p></p><p>My husband gets calls and texts from work at all times of day and night. We'll be in the middle of dinner, and someone has a problem. The beep beep of the phone is extremely distracting from us enjoying our time together. We don't have a choice but to pick up the phone because it is his livelihood, and I'm fine with it.</p><p></p><p>If, on the other hand, that disruption were taking place because of a sullen, demanding relative? Boom, phone # changed. The end.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sabine, post: 620154, member: 17639"] difficult child keeps writing these emails that specify "do not respond", yet he obviously wants a response (probably not verbal, just some money sent along without opinions..) About this point I would write him one last text. It would be something along these lines: ---------------------------------------------------------------- "You are our son. We have always loved you dearly, and will always continue to love you. Raising children is an enormous responsibility, with emotional, time, and financial commitments. When a child turns 18, the responsibility, time, and financial commitments are removed from the parent's shoulders and placed upon the young adult's. The emotional ties remain forever. You are now an adult, and as such: you are responsible for yourself. You need to take the time to take care of yourself. You have to find your financial way in the world. These are no longer our responsibilities. If you should become a father some day, you will come to understand these truths. You asked that we listen to YOU. We did. We heard you rehash old hurts from your childhood. We heard you ask us for money. We can do nothing to change the past, and we have no money for you now or in the future. We have listened, but there is nothing for us to do. You are on your own." ----------------------------------------------------------------- And at this point I would either block his texts or phone calls, change my phone number, or something.. My husband gets calls and texts from work at all times of day and night. We'll be in the middle of dinner, and someone has a problem. The beep beep of the phone is extremely distracting from us enjoying our time together. We don't have a choice but to pick up the phone because it is his livelihood, and I'm fine with it. If, on the other hand, that disruption were taking place because of a sullen, demanding relative? Boom, phone # changed. The end. [/QUOTE]
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