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sleeping with doors locked; difficult child left, wants to come home, Part II
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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 166357" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>That was the hard part for me, too. Saying no without sounding like I'm rejecting. When mine was out and about before we moved here, she wanted to come back home. I knew if I said yes that nothing would change. She needed to hit a bottom. So, when she hinted, I simply told her that as much as I loved her, I could not live with her. It caused too much anger and resentment in both of us. She didn't like the answer and it caused the usual screaming and accusations but, when she finally did come home, it did make a difference. Some of the old behavior was still there but not as much, not as severe and things never again were as ugly as they used to be.</p><p> </p><p>I actually practiced what I was going to say when she hinted (she would never flat out ask because that would mean she had lost) long before that day ever came. It helped.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 166357, member: 3626"] That was the hard part for me, too. Saying no without sounding like I'm rejecting. When mine was out and about before we moved here, she wanted to come back home. I knew if I said yes that nothing would change. She needed to hit a bottom. So, when she hinted, I simply told her that as much as I loved her, I could not live with her. It caused too much anger and resentment in both of us. She didn't like the answer and it caused the usual screaming and accusations but, when she finally did come home, it did make a difference. Some of the old behavior was still there but not as much, not as severe and things never again were as ugly as they used to be. I actually practiced what I was going to say when she hinted (she would never flat out ask because that would mean she had lost) long before that day ever came. It helped. [/QUOTE]
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