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<blockquote data-quote="Robinboots" data-source="post: 332029" data-attributes="member: 4542"><p>Here is my therapy story:</p><p></p><p>Sent GFG17 to a counselor who *I* had seen at his age for 3-4 sessions because my mom (who is nuts) thought *I* was nuts. As an adult, now that I think about it, not really sure WHY she sent me - oh yeah, I started having panic attacks and really I was a bit older, 20, but since I still have them, I guess he wasn't very effective.</p><p></p><p>But I digress.</p><p></p><p>I figured better the devil I DO know, etc., so off he went. This guy fell for GFG17's cr*p hook, line, and sinker. It was ALL my fault, he'd be better off NEVER going home, etc. The guy did talk to me once - and get this: told me he'd also counseled my mom and my dad! Weird, huh? husband took difficult child once, and the guy barely acknowledged him, let alone spoke to him or introduced himself. So that ended. Oh, yeah, the counselor also called MY MOM, who also believed all of difficult child's cr*p so they had themselves a nice gripe session about me.</p><p></p><p>difficult child saw a psychologist in detention, the one who told me there was "nothing" wrong with him, but her report mysteriously, 8 months later, indicated "evidence of CD and Auditory Processing Disorders (APD)". Nice, huh?</p><p></p><p>The court ordered family therapy. After about 4 sessions, glory be, she saw through difficult child!! However, she still continued to suggest everything under the sun - more freedom, more love, more, more, more. Finally the light finished dawning, about the time I said: you know what? This is doing NOTHING - we've tried it all, doesn't work, and I'm tired of bowing to difficult child's wishes. Besides that, he continues to lie and won't admit anything or apologize. The end.</p><p></p><p>Now, in spite of the judge's order, the therapist calls me once a month and asks how things are going; she talks to difficult child, same questions. She writes her report.</p><p></p><p>But wait - it's FAMILY therapy right? Wrong. Apparently, even tho husband was the one difficult child accused of abuse and the reason therapy was ordered, *I* am the mom, therefore it's all MY FAULT.</p><p></p><p>You know you're in for a ride when the caseworker starts every flippin meeting "no shaming, no blaming". Esp. when you, I mean *I*, respond with: BULL. It IS him, he IS the one at fault, he DID it!</p><p></p><p>Sigh. Sorry to hijack, but unless you get a good therapist, and sometimes even if you do, it's a waste. And I'm one who always thought therapy could "help."</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Robinboots, post: 332029, member: 4542"] Here is my therapy story: Sent GFG17 to a counselor who *I* had seen at his age for 3-4 sessions because my mom (who is nuts) thought *I* was nuts. As an adult, now that I think about it, not really sure WHY she sent me - oh yeah, I started having panic attacks and really I was a bit older, 20, but since I still have them, I guess he wasn't very effective. But I digress. I figured better the devil I DO know, etc., so off he went. This guy fell for GFG17's cr*p hook, line, and sinker. It was ALL my fault, he'd be better off NEVER going home, etc. The guy did talk to me once - and get this: told me he'd also counseled my mom and my dad! Weird, huh? husband took difficult child once, and the guy barely acknowledged him, let alone spoke to him or introduced himself. So that ended. Oh, yeah, the counselor also called MY MOM, who also believed all of difficult child's cr*p so they had themselves a nice gripe session about me. difficult child saw a psychologist in detention, the one who told me there was "nothing" wrong with him, but her report mysteriously, 8 months later, indicated "evidence of CD and Auditory Processing Disorders (APD)". Nice, huh? The court ordered family therapy. After about 4 sessions, glory be, she saw through difficult child!! However, she still continued to suggest everything under the sun - more freedom, more love, more, more, more. Finally the light finished dawning, about the time I said: you know what? This is doing NOTHING - we've tried it all, doesn't work, and I'm tired of bowing to difficult child's wishes. Besides that, he continues to lie and won't admit anything or apologize. The end. Now, in spite of the judge's order, the therapist calls me once a month and asks how things are going; she talks to difficult child, same questions. She writes her report. But wait - it's FAMILY therapy right? Wrong. Apparently, even tho husband was the one difficult child accused of abuse and the reason therapy was ordered, *I* am the mom, therefore it's all MY FAULT. You know you're in for a ride when the caseworker starts every flippin meeting "no shaming, no blaming". Esp. when you, I mean *I*, respond with: BULL. It IS him, he IS the one at fault, he DID it! Sigh. Sorry to hijack, but unless you get a good therapist, and sometimes even if you do, it's a waste. And I'm one who always thought therapy could "help." [/QUOTE]
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