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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 332031" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>That's why I thiink most tdocs out there these days are not any good- espeically the ones doing therapy where kids are involved. They aren't being taught well, in my humble opinion. They get the point about dysfunctional families but apparently aren't taught anything about them, much less what to do to help them. So all they do is blame the parenting- which bascily means the mother. It has to be what is being taught to them because they all do it- and since I'm not the only one being told this but most parents on this board have had that experience and many, more than once, it only points to that the tdocs are being taught to blame the parent, in my humble opinion.</p><p></p><p>I try to keep this thought in the back of my mind during any therapy that I see going awry: If the therapist knew what to say that would really help, he/she would say it, so if he/she is either not helping or making things worse or just getting a ego-boost out of being able to open up a can of worms but then sending us out the door, it's because he/she doesn't have a clue how to deal with this problem. And I actually had one who threw his arms up in the air after I had taken difficult child and we'd met with him for months with him assuring us he could help but when I took difficult child to his office unexpectedly because difficult child was having a meltdown- he said he didn't know what to do so he tdo'd him. OK, if they end up saying "take difficult child to psychiatric hospital" or "call police" (I had one tell me that, too), then exactly how are they helping? I can do that much on my own. What are they advising that I'm not already doing? Do they know how to fix the problem?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 332031, member: 3699"] That's why I thiink most tdocs out there these days are not any good- espeically the ones doing therapy where kids are involved. They aren't being taught well, in my humble opinion. They get the point about dysfunctional families but apparently aren't taught anything about them, much less what to do to help them. So all they do is blame the parenting- which bascily means the mother. It has to be what is being taught to them because they all do it- and since I'm not the only one being told this but most parents on this board have had that experience and many, more than once, it only points to that the tdocs are being taught to blame the parent, in my humble opinion. I try to keep this thought in the back of my mind during any therapy that I see going awry: If the therapist knew what to say that would really help, he/she would say it, so if he/she is either not helping or making things worse or just getting a ego-boost out of being able to open up a can of worms but then sending us out the door, it's because he/she doesn't have a clue how to deal with this problem. And I actually had one who threw his arms up in the air after I had taken difficult child and we'd met with him for months with him assuring us he could help but when I took difficult child to his office unexpectedly because difficult child was having a meltdown- he said he didn't know what to do so he tdo'd him. OK, if they end up saying "take difficult child to psychiatric hospital" or "call police" (I had one tell me that, too), then exactly how are they helping? I can do that much on my own. What are they advising that I'm not already doing? Do they know how to fix the problem? [/QUOTE]
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