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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 369299" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p>Well I don't have any suggestions really. I am appalled by his behavior and lack of consideration to you. on the other hand, why should he change things up since there have been no real consequences? Have you ever seriously considered leaving him and let him know about it? I only ask because you've mentioned counseling and all those dr consultations and H still doesn't seem to understand the seriousness of the problems. </p><p></p><p>To me, his addiction to gaming is just like any other addiction. His lethargy is a by-product of that addiction. I understand that he has real health issues, but he can change that if he really wanted to but he chooses not to. Believe me, I know how that is. My H and I were in counseling and after a while she told H he didn't need to come back. He told me he must be cured. When I asked the counselor about it she said, 'no, I feel it's pointless for us to be spinning our wheels with your H here. He knows what he truly needs to do, but once he leaves this office, it's back to the same old same old for him. Iow, he's not putting into daily practice all the techniques we've gone over. I would rather focus on working with you alone because you want to grow.'</p><p></p><p>Do you go to therapy alone so you can learn how to cope and change the way you deal with H? He is not going to change so maybe you should focus on you and your future. Hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 369299, member: 2211"] Well I don't have any suggestions really. I am appalled by his behavior and lack of consideration to you. on the other hand, why should he change things up since there have been no real consequences? Have you ever seriously considered leaving him and let him know about it? I only ask because you've mentioned counseling and all those dr consultations and H still doesn't seem to understand the seriousness of the problems. To me, his addiction to gaming is just like any other addiction. His lethargy is a by-product of that addiction. I understand that he has real health issues, but he can change that if he really wanted to but he chooses not to. Believe me, I know how that is. My H and I were in counseling and after a while she told H he didn't need to come back. He told me he must be cured. When I asked the counselor about it she said, 'no, I feel it's pointless for us to be spinning our wheels with your H here. He knows what he truly needs to do, but once he leaves this office, it's back to the same old same old for him. Iow, he's not putting into daily practice all the techniques we've gone over. I would rather focus on working with you alone because you want to grow.' Do you go to therapy alone so you can learn how to cope and change the way you deal with H? He is not going to change so maybe you should focus on you and your future. Hugs. [/QUOTE]
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