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<blockquote data-quote="welcometowitsend" data-source="post: 544184" data-attributes="member: 14356"><p>Thank you everyone for your words of support. They mean a lot. </p><p></p><p>difficult child stayed with my parents over the weekend. Apparently my mother lied to difficult child and told him that she did not hear me tell him what the reference number was for when I ordered his concert tickets. She told me that she did hear me tell him. Ugh! Playing both sides. This was an issue because it resulted in a huge meltdown with difficult child last week where he ranted at me for 7+ hours. </p><p></p><p>Now she has him convinced that I am manipulative. She has done this with my sister and I our entire adult lives. She will take something my sister says and manipulate it to make it sound really bad and then tell me. And vice versa. So frustrating. She'll also make things up and tell the other one that we have said it. My sister and I are onto her now but we have gone for very long stretches without speaking to each other because of fights that my mother has stirred up by playing us against each other. </p><p></p><p>My mother thrives on this kind of drama and now she is doing it with my son. She did it with her siblings when we were little, then my sister and I and now this. I'm beyond frustrated and it's pointless to talk to her because she accepts no responsibility and will immediately play the victim role. </p><p></p><p>difficult child, husband and I had a blow up last night but it ended up that husband and I had a good talk with difficult child and then after husband went to bed difficult child and I had another long talk. We talked about going to the psychiatrist and the possibility of different diagnoses (I know he is depressed and then there is the possibility of Aspergers which totally upsets him). I also spoke to him about respect and how it devastates his father when he is so disrespectful to me. I told him that he needs to remember what gma is like and to always verify things with me when she tells him stuff because it could be a twisted version of the truth. </p><p></p><p>He is depressed and angry right now, he said he slept very little when he was gone and has started drinking. He was smoking last week too but says it tastes disgusting so hopefully that won't continue. I told him that he needs to be very aware that there is a difference between social drinking and drinking to self medicate. What he is doing right now is self medicating (drinking to make himself happy) and that is dangerous because he is flirting with addiction. </p><p></p><p>I guess the good thing is that he still wants to go to his dr. appts and find out what is going on.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="welcometowitsend, post: 544184, member: 14356"] Thank you everyone for your words of support. They mean a lot. difficult child stayed with my parents over the weekend. Apparently my mother lied to difficult child and told him that she did not hear me tell him what the reference number was for when I ordered his concert tickets. She told me that she did hear me tell him. Ugh! Playing both sides. This was an issue because it resulted in a huge meltdown with difficult child last week where he ranted at me for 7+ hours. Now she has him convinced that I am manipulative. She has done this with my sister and I our entire adult lives. She will take something my sister says and manipulate it to make it sound really bad and then tell me. And vice versa. So frustrating. She'll also make things up and tell the other one that we have said it. My sister and I are onto her now but we have gone for very long stretches without speaking to each other because of fights that my mother has stirred up by playing us against each other. My mother thrives on this kind of drama and now she is doing it with my son. She did it with her siblings when we were little, then my sister and I and now this. I'm beyond frustrated and it's pointless to talk to her because she accepts no responsibility and will immediately play the victim role. difficult child, husband and I had a blow up last night but it ended up that husband and I had a good talk with difficult child and then after husband went to bed difficult child and I had another long talk. We talked about going to the psychiatrist and the possibility of different diagnoses (I know he is depressed and then there is the possibility of Aspergers which totally upsets him). I also spoke to him about respect and how it devastates his father when he is so disrespectful to me. I told him that he needs to remember what gma is like and to always verify things with me when she tells him stuff because it could be a twisted version of the truth. He is depressed and angry right now, he said he slept very little when he was gone and has started drinking. He was smoking last week too but says it tastes disgusting so hopefully that won't continue. I told him that he needs to be very aware that there is a difference between social drinking and drinking to self medicate. What he is doing right now is self medicating (drinking to make himself happy) and that is dangerous because he is flirting with addiction. I guess the good thing is that he still wants to go to his dr. appts and find out what is going on. [/QUOTE]
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