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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 396096" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I am afraid I would have stopped proceedings and said to easy child/difficult child, "Let's try this again, but more graciously. 'Thank you, Grandma, it was a very thoughtful gift.' Now you try, repeat after me..."</p><p>What more could make it any worse? Even if she has a meltdown at this point - it could only make things better, because then you could say, "She's clearly not having a good day, this is not about your gift at all." Even if it is.</p><p></p><p>As for not wanting to eat because she'd already eaten too much - again, she could handle ti graciously. I would model it for her and make her repeat. I know she's 17 but clearly doesn't know how to behave properly do you need to teach her how until she DOES prove she can behave properly (at least, that's what you tell her when she protests your apparently treating her like a baby). "Thank you for offering food, it really looks delicious, I wish I had room for it. But in the last two days I really have eaten a lot more food than I usually do."</p><p></p><p>We model this way for difficult child 3 - a lot of the time, his rudeness is due to impulsivity or simply trying to say things in a hurry. But we make him go back and say it nicely. It's hard work sometimes! If we have to, we will correct our adult kids too. No exceptions.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 396096, member: 1991"] I am afraid I would have stopped proceedings and said to easy child/difficult child, "Let's try this again, but more graciously. 'Thank you, Grandma, it was a very thoughtful gift.' Now you try, repeat after me..." What more could make it any worse? Even if she has a meltdown at this point - it could only make things better, because then you could say, "She's clearly not having a good day, this is not about your gift at all." Even if it is. As for not wanting to eat because she'd already eaten too much - again, she could handle ti graciously. I would model it for her and make her repeat. I know she's 17 but clearly doesn't know how to behave properly do you need to teach her how until she DOES prove she can behave properly (at least, that's what you tell her when she protests your apparently treating her like a baby). "Thank you for offering food, it really looks delicious, I wish I had room for it. But in the last two days I really have eaten a lot more food than I usually do." We model this way for difficult child 3 - a lot of the time, his rudeness is due to impulsivity or simply trying to say things in a hurry. But we make him go back and say it nicely. It's hard work sometimes! If we have to, we will correct our adult kids too. No exceptions. Marg [/QUOTE]
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