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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 428902" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Heather, I'm with you. The direct, fast response. Matter-of-fact. "Honey, you left the bread and mayo out and the cat got to it before I found it. Please pick up more on the way home; you will need to, if you want bread and mayo as part of your lunch tomorrow. Oh, and I threw away your cheese wrappers for you. You can thank me when you come home."</p><p></p><p>husband & I are direct with one another. It makes a big difference. And it did not come naturally to him, his mother has been the queen of denial and passive-aggressive from way back when. He was always on the back foot, trying to not react to the damned-if-you-do, damned-if-you-don't traps and feeling slammed from this wall to that. But I work differently, as a result he & I together work well. And I get on well with his mother now, too. It takes effort sometimes, but I consider it an investment. Or perhaps us repaying her investment in him. When it is a bad day, I just try to channel the Dalai Lama...</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 428902, member: 1991"] Heather, I'm with you. The direct, fast response. Matter-of-fact. "Honey, you left the bread and mayo out and the cat got to it before I found it. Please pick up more on the way home; you will need to, if you want bread and mayo as part of your lunch tomorrow. Oh, and I threw away your cheese wrappers for you. You can thank me when you come home." husband & I are direct with one another. It makes a big difference. And it did not come naturally to him, his mother has been the queen of denial and passive-aggressive from way back when. He was always on the back foot, trying to not react to the damned-if-you-do, damned-if-you-don't traps and feeling slammed from this wall to that. But I work differently, as a result he & I together work well. And I get on well with his mother now, too. It takes effort sometimes, but I consider it an investment. Or perhaps us repaying her investment in him. When it is a bad day, I just try to channel the Dalai Lama... Marg [/QUOTE]
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