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<blockquote data-quote="amstrong" data-source="post: 35100" data-attributes="member: 3266"><p>Hi,</p><p></p><p>Thanks for all the good input. husband and I are speaking and I did tell him that I love him and I am abiding by his decisions. difficult child brought the car home straight after work last nite and was told that Friday is another chance to get this final test done and if it was not, he would be bringing the car home each nite after work and not using it at all on days off until test was passed. The biggest problem we are having is that everytime husband anticipates a fit out of difficult child, his statement is ALWAYS, "if he gets disrespectful, I am throwing him out!" Most of the time, he lets difficult child cool off and talks to him rationally with pretty good results but there are the times like this. I get upset at the veiled threats of his leaving-because I know he has seen this freak me out in the past and that is his way of trying to get my goat. It does get my goat that when he does get put out with difficult child, he is so quick to tell me that he's not having any more to do with him-that hurts-it so puts me in the middle. In the course of our little tiff the other day, I never once told hiim that I was not going to abide by his rules-I was simply trying to reason with him to calm down as I know from past experience that when he does, things between them work better. He hasn't gotten over the cussing he received from difficult child over 2 years ago (the 1st time he almost left us). difficult child apologized after a few days and they shook hands. I know it cut him to the bone and had to hurt. They will be fine in a few days. it also does not help that husband goes to bed at 7pm and is up at 230am for work and gets home at 100pm. They do not see each other much-the tiff they had was on difficult child's day off. Meanwhile difficult child knows he messed up and is towing the mark.</p><p></p><p>The plan for after graduation is to allow him to live at home, make him sign a rule agreement which will state that failure to abide by residence rules will result in his being forced to find another residence.</p><p></p><p>On a good note, he got his first bank statement yesterday and I helped him balance-he had forgotten to register 4 receipts but still had them and when all was said and done, he was outta balance only 16 cents! He's pretty proud. When he looked at his daily balances and saw that the account at one time got down to only $9 and some cents, he realized he was blowing money and we talked about how to budget somewhat.</p><p></p><p>I am sorry for rambling--you guys rock!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="amstrong, post: 35100, member: 3266"] Hi, Thanks for all the good input. husband and I are speaking and I did tell him that I love him and I am abiding by his decisions. difficult child brought the car home straight after work last nite and was told that Friday is another chance to get this final test done and if it was not, he would be bringing the car home each nite after work and not using it at all on days off until test was passed. The biggest problem we are having is that everytime husband anticipates a fit out of difficult child, his statement is ALWAYS, "if he gets disrespectful, I am throwing him out!" Most of the time, he lets difficult child cool off and talks to him rationally with pretty good results but there are the times like this. I get upset at the veiled threats of his leaving-because I know he has seen this freak me out in the past and that is his way of trying to get my goat. It does get my goat that when he does get put out with difficult child, he is so quick to tell me that he's not having any more to do with him-that hurts-it so puts me in the middle. In the course of our little tiff the other day, I never once told hiim that I was not going to abide by his rules-I was simply trying to reason with him to calm down as I know from past experience that when he does, things between them work better. He hasn't gotten over the cussing he received from difficult child over 2 years ago (the 1st time he almost left us). difficult child apologized after a few days and they shook hands. I know it cut him to the bone and had to hurt. They will be fine in a few days. it also does not help that husband goes to bed at 7pm and is up at 230am for work and gets home at 100pm. They do not see each other much-the tiff they had was on difficult child's day off. Meanwhile difficult child knows he messed up and is towing the mark. The plan for after graduation is to allow him to live at home, make him sign a rule agreement which will state that failure to abide by residence rules will result in his being forced to find another residence. On a good note, he got his first bank statement yesterday and I helped him balance-he had forgotten to register 4 receipts but still had them and when all was said and done, he was outta balance only 16 cents! He's pretty proud. When he looked at his daily balances and saw that the account at one time got down to only $9 and some cents, he realized he was blowing money and we talked about how to budget somewhat. I am sorry for rambling--you guys rock! [/QUOTE]
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