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So much for a happy new year. This is no way to start.
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 705566" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Lil and Jabber, I'm so sorry that this is how your New Year began.</p><p></p><p>It's so exhausting. Reading this thread took me back to my own story with Difficult Child. All of the endless details I always tried to sort through and figure out and what was best? There never was a good answer.</p><p></p><p>All you can do is what you can live with. I know that's different for you and then for Jabber, like it was for me, and for Difficult Child's dad (we didn't live in the same house, we were divorced during all of the awful years with Difficult Child) and all you can do is what works for you. </p><p></p><p>then, let go of the outcome. Whatever happens, you did the best you could do. If he did or didn't get his stuff stolen, if he did or didn't spend the gift cards on what he needed, just let it all go. It doesn't matter, and it takes endless energy that is precious to worry over it all. It is what it is. It is what it is going to be and worrying isn't going to change one single thing.</p><p></p><p>You acted, you did the best you could do, and you set a boundary with him about what's next. Go back to your life now. There is a whole big New Year in front of us all, and it's going to be whatever we make of it.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there. We're here for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 705566, member: 17542"] Lil and Jabber, I'm so sorry that this is how your New Year began. It's so exhausting. Reading this thread took me back to my own story with Difficult Child. All of the endless details I always tried to sort through and figure out and what was best? There never was a good answer. All you can do is what you can live with. I know that's different for you and then for Jabber, like it was for me, and for Difficult Child's dad (we didn't live in the same house, we were divorced during all of the awful years with Difficult Child) and all you can do is what works for you. then, let go of the outcome. Whatever happens, you did the best you could do. If he did or didn't get his stuff stolen, if he did or didn't spend the gift cards on what he needed, just let it all go. It doesn't matter, and it takes endless energy that is precious to worry over it all. It is what it is. It is what it is going to be and worrying isn't going to change one single thing. You acted, you did the best you could do, and you set a boundary with him about what's next. Go back to your life now. There is a whole big New Year in front of us all, and it's going to be whatever we make of it. Hang in there. We're here for you. [/QUOTE]
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So much for a happy new year. This is no way to start.
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