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<blockquote data-quote="dreamcycle" data-source="post: 489751" data-attributes="member: 13365"><p>Buddy,</p><p></p><p>I hope we get there. Because he is 19 he has to be on board. I saw him at church this morning. (He was required to come with the family who so graciously has taken him in for a few weeks...) And he still seems soooo hostile. He mentioned he 'might' be coming back home--IF dad wasn't being a 'D-bag' I responded "If that is your attitude, then you won't be able, to come home." He looked at me strangely. He thinks he is doing us a favor by moving back home. Since he moved over to our friends house, my kitchen stays neat, my kitchen table is wiped off, the tv is not left on, there are no bath towels on the floor, there are no shoes,jackets,hats etc. dropped wherever they land. There have been no urgent irrational demands, and no screaming when we don't comply with someones wishes. If we try an negotiate him coming home, how do we navigate that? I don't want to set him up for failure i.e. one mistake and you are out, but I don't want to enable him either. Honestly, if he doesn't get a handle on this hostility, I have small hope for success. I want so bad to help him, but I know that doesn't necessarily mean coddling him. Should I make a visit to a neuropsychologist a requirement for his return? I think just mentioning that will cause him to go off the deep end. Any suggestion that he might be dealing with something that makes him anything but 'normal' makes him furious.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dreamcycle, post: 489751, member: 13365"] Buddy, I hope we get there. Because he is 19 he has to be on board. I saw him at church this morning. (He was required to come with the family who so graciously has taken him in for a few weeks...) And he still seems soooo hostile. He mentioned he 'might' be coming back home--IF dad wasn't being a 'D-bag' I responded "If that is your attitude, then you won't be able, to come home." He looked at me strangely. He thinks he is doing us a favor by moving back home. Since he moved over to our friends house, my kitchen stays neat, my kitchen table is wiped off, the tv is not left on, there are no bath towels on the floor, there are no shoes,jackets,hats etc. dropped wherever they land. There have been no urgent irrational demands, and no screaming when we don't comply with someones wishes. If we try an negotiate him coming home, how do we navigate that? I don't want to set him up for failure i.e. one mistake and you are out, but I don't want to enable him either. Honestly, if he doesn't get a handle on this hostility, I have small hope for success. I want so bad to help him, but I know that doesn't necessarily mean coddling him. Should I make a visit to a neuropsychologist a requirement for his return? I think just mentioning that will cause him to go off the deep end. Any suggestion that he might be dealing with something that makes him anything but 'normal' makes him furious. [/QUOTE]
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