Susie,
Even though I'm much more of a "lurker" than a poster now, I try to keep up with what's happening here. I'm so sorry to hear about Jessie - My heart breaks for her, for you...
You've gotten some really good advice from the others. I can't think of anything useful to add. I just want you to know I'm keeping your daughter and you too in my thoughts and prayers... Hugs... SFR