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So, there was a party at my house....
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 662282" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I didn't really trust her, but she said she's quit drugs (for the tenth time) and had been acting more compliant so I'm</p><p></p><p>I'm not shocked, but not all kids do this. The only one who did was Princess. My kids didn't party when I was home or not and were pretty quiet. Bart tells me he didn't have his first drink until his 20's, which I believe. Goneboy still doesn't drink let alone do drugs. Princess was into drugs so sh e threw parties when we didn't know it and there was always evidence. It is hard to cover up a party bash. Jumper and Sonic...nada. Jumper's in college and still doesn't drink or do drugs and has never been in trouble in her nineteen years.</p><p></p><p>I think it's a red flag that he was warned so sternly and didn't listen. It was disrespectful and an Easy Child would have cared enough not to do it...at least not this time when he'd been warned...Easy Child tend to respect their parents. Doesn't mean they never do a nything dumb or wrong, but not when it is addressed like this was. And I'm assuming t here are other warning signs going on, not just this and that he did not act very sorry. I c ould be wrong. I wasn't there.</p><p></p><p>Lots of kids partied when I was young too, but I never did. Not once did I ever throw a party at my parent's house. </p><p></p><p>It is dangerous to think "they all do it" when justifying a person's behavior. It is better to deal with the behavior that was wrong so that the adult child knows this can never happen again in his parents house. If the parents think "They all do it" not only are they wrong, but they minimize the lack of trust and immaturity of their deeds. If this kid is newly in college, it could be a warning sign that he isn't handling that freedom so well. </p><p></p><p>And maybe not, but I don't like "they all do it." That is wrong.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 662282, member: 1550"] I didn't really trust her, but she said she's quit drugs (for the tenth time) and had been acting more compliant so I'm I'm not shocked, but not all kids do this. The only one who did was Princess. My kids didn't party when I was home or not and were pretty quiet. Bart tells me he didn't have his first drink until his 20's, which I believe. Goneboy still doesn't drink let alone do drugs. Princess was into drugs so sh e threw parties when we didn't know it and there was always evidence. It is hard to cover up a party bash. Jumper and Sonic...nada. Jumper's in college and still doesn't drink or do drugs and has never been in trouble in her nineteen years. I think it's a red flag that he was warned so sternly and didn't listen. It was disrespectful and an Easy Child would have cared enough not to do it...at least not this time when he'd been warned...Easy Child tend to respect their parents. Doesn't mean they never do a nything dumb or wrong, but not when it is addressed like this was. And I'm assuming t here are other warning signs going on, not just this and that he did not act very sorry. I c ould be wrong. I wasn't there. Lots of kids partied when I was young too, but I never did. Not once did I ever throw a party at my parent's house. It is dangerous to think "they all do it" when justifying a person's behavior. It is better to deal with the behavior that was wrong so that the adult child knows this can never happen again in his parents house. If the parents think "They all do it" not only are they wrong, but they minimize the lack of trust and immaturity of their deeds. If this kid is newly in college, it could be a warning sign that he isn't handling that freedom so well. And maybe not, but I don't like "they all do it." That is wrong. [/QUOTE]
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