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<blockquote data-quote="exhausted" data-source="post: 535085" data-attributes="member: 11001"><p>Nancy, I am so sorry. She is a mess in so many ways. And you and husband are such good parents. I happen to believe that the mental health issues are huge. If it is a personality disorder, this is years and years of help. I have learned that the pain that goes on in their heads is unbearable. The risk for suicide is more than double. She is doing everything she can to block the reality that is her mental state. All self-destructive, living on the edge behaviors with no regard for her life. Just like my difficult child. I have come to believe the only safe place is residential care, but none of us can afford to do that and there are other harms with "locking" them up. Will she go to a counselor? Will she seek trauma therapy? It's amazing that she was not more scared by the STDs, but as with my kid, I don't know what level of trauma will kick her into the "I need help" mode. </p><p></p><p>I personally have really struggled with what enabling is and isn't when our difficult children are so mentally impaired. If they had a more visual disability, noone would question our helping to support them. Adding addiction on top just makes it worse because the 12 step philosophy teaches us to not "enable". I am coming more and more to the place that my daughters BPS is severe and debilitating. She holds on for a few months and then all heck breaks loose. Your difficult child seems to do this as well. As I read more, I realize that the whole notion of enabling is different with such severe mental health issues. What about getting her to voc. rehab? </p><p></p><p>I am so sorry and I know your pain, exhaustion, and frustration. ((Hugs))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="exhausted, post: 535085, member: 11001"] Nancy, I am so sorry. She is a mess in so many ways. And you and husband are such good parents. I happen to believe that the mental health issues are huge. If it is a personality disorder, this is years and years of help. I have learned that the pain that goes on in their heads is unbearable. The risk for suicide is more than double. She is doing everything she can to block the reality that is her mental state. All self-destructive, living on the edge behaviors with no regard for her life. Just like my difficult child. I have come to believe the only safe place is residential care, but none of us can afford to do that and there are other harms with "locking" them up. Will she go to a counselor? Will she seek trauma therapy? It's amazing that she was not more scared by the STDs, but as with my kid, I don't know what level of trauma will kick her into the "I need help" mode. I personally have really struggled with what enabling is and isn't when our difficult children are so mentally impaired. If they had a more visual disability, noone would question our helping to support them. Adding addiction on top just makes it worse because the 12 step philosophy teaches us to not "enable". I am coming more and more to the place that my daughters BPS is severe and debilitating. She holds on for a few months and then all heck breaks loose. Your difficult child seems to do this as well. As I read more, I realize that the whole notion of enabling is different with such severe mental health issues. What about getting her to voc. rehab? I am so sorry and I know your pain, exhaustion, and frustration. ((Hugs)) [/QUOTE]
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