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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 107266" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Hi and Welcome, </p><p></p><p>Most of what you described can be typical 4 year old behaviors. As far as the thing about not wanting to go play with the other kids at McDonalds or running out of a room - have you asked him why? What does he say? </p><p></p><p>I totally get the thing about no one touching the food. I don't think it's weird at all. It may have been something he's seen someone else his age do, and he thought "Yeah I don't want anyone touching my food." My sister still won't eat her stuff if it touches. - She's a genius, go figure. </p><p></p><p>To compare him to the other 3 - not exactly fair. Each of us have our own little quirks and honestly after having only 1 and him be a major difficult child - I would thank GOD for 3 that behaved any other way! lol. Not hard to see why you are tired and weary, chasing after kids and being a full time Mom is tough! Someone should give you a congrats for making it this long! Congrats! </p><p></p><p>If you think that there is something wrong or very very different about this fella - make an appointment with your sons doctor and discuss it with him, then ask for a recommendation or referral to a psychologist or psychiatrist. </p><p></p><p>The reason that I'm NOT jumping on the band wagon of GET AN IMMEDIATE diagnosis is because all children learn differently. Each of us learn things differently. It may be with your son that he's just NOT understanding you and your requests. If you say "In our home we don't yell for Mommy you need to come look for me." and he doesn't understand that - then you need to try something else - and that's where a behavior specialist comes in. They train YOU and your son to communicate on a level you can both live with. It may be something simple or just rewording your requests that gets through to him so that he doesn't feel he has to throw a fit to get you to come to him. </p><p></p><p>Personally - the last time my son threw a fit - I laid down on the department store floor and threw one myself - and I'm bigger, I'm louder and I'm more noticeable. It embarrassed him to death. He was 4 1/2 years old. He's 17 and while I can't make him listen to much else I say - I promise you having a fit in a public place when you are 28 years old - stops a child from ever doing it again. At least it did us. lol </p><p></p><p>Good luck with your son. Don't think I'm brushing you off either. I'm just stating what I see from what you've wrote without a diagnosis from any doctor. And yes, believe me 3 other kids certainly qualifies you to know when something is wrong - I just don't want to jump to any conclusions. It could be allergies for all we know. Lots of bad junk in food these days - </p><p></p><p>I certainly welcome you - I'm glad you were routed to us. </p><p></p><p>Many Hugs - and you'll see lots of others will come along and give you different advice - take what you can out of it that helps you and go from there. </p><p></p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 107266, member: 4964"] Hi and Welcome, Most of what you described can be typical 4 year old behaviors. As far as the thing about not wanting to go play with the other kids at McDonalds or running out of a room - have you asked him why? What does he say? I totally get the thing about no one touching the food. I don't think it's weird at all. It may have been something he's seen someone else his age do, and he thought "Yeah I don't want anyone touching my food." My sister still won't eat her stuff if it touches. - She's a genius, go figure. To compare him to the other 3 - not exactly fair. Each of us have our own little quirks and honestly after having only 1 and him be a major difficult child - I would thank GOD for 3 that behaved any other way! lol. Not hard to see why you are tired and weary, chasing after kids and being a full time Mom is tough! Someone should give you a congrats for making it this long! Congrats! If you think that there is something wrong or very very different about this fella - make an appointment with your sons doctor and discuss it with him, then ask for a recommendation or referral to a psychologist or psychiatrist. The reason that I'm NOT jumping on the band wagon of GET AN IMMEDIATE diagnosis is because all children learn differently. Each of us learn things differently. It may be with your son that he's just NOT understanding you and your requests. If you say "In our home we don't yell for Mommy you need to come look for me." and he doesn't understand that - then you need to try something else - and that's where a behavior specialist comes in. They train YOU and your son to communicate on a level you can both live with. It may be something simple or just rewording your requests that gets through to him so that he doesn't feel he has to throw a fit to get you to come to him. Personally - the last time my son threw a fit - I laid down on the department store floor and threw one myself - and I'm bigger, I'm louder and I'm more noticeable. It embarrassed him to death. He was 4 1/2 years old. He's 17 and while I can't make him listen to much else I say - I promise you having a fit in a public place when you are 28 years old - stops a child from ever doing it again. At least it did us. lol Good luck with your son. Don't think I'm brushing you off either. I'm just stating what I see from what you've wrote without a diagnosis from any doctor. And yes, believe me 3 other kids certainly qualifies you to know when something is wrong - I just don't want to jump to any conclusions. It could be allergies for all we know. Lots of bad junk in food these days - I certainly welcome you - I'm glad you were routed to us. Many Hugs - and you'll see lots of others will come along and give you different advice - take what you can out of it that helps you and go from there. Star [/QUOTE]
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