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<blockquote data-quote="graceupongrace" data-source="post: 273397" data-attributes="member: 7371"><p>Marg,</p><p></p><p>Thanks for the good advice. It has been very difficult to get difficult child to identify the real source of his anger/frustration. Both therapist and psychiatrist have commented repeatedly on his lack of insight. Instead, he falls back on "It's you, mom. You're the problem!" Which, of course, means (in his mind) that he doesn't have to deal with it. He doesn't connect his behavior with the consequence. He just focuses on the consequence, which makes him furious. I try to get him to see that consequences are the result of his behavior, but he refuses to acknowledge that. He is <em>always</em> the victim. </p><p></p><p>I have started asking him, "What do you think would happen if you tried letting go of the anger for just a day?" But so far he's not willing to do that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="graceupongrace, post: 273397, member: 7371"] Marg, Thanks for the good advice. It has been very difficult to get difficult child to identify the real source of his anger/frustration. Both therapist and psychiatrist have commented repeatedly on his lack of insight. Instead, he falls back on "It's you, mom. You're the problem!" Which, of course, means (in his mind) that he doesn't have to deal with it. He doesn't connect his behavior with the consequence. He just focuses on the consequence, which makes him furious. I try to get him to see that consequences are the result of his behavior, but he refuses to acknowledge that. He is [I]always[/I] the victim. I have started asking him, "What do you think would happen if you tried letting go of the anger for just a day?" But so far he's not willing to do that. [/QUOTE]
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