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So very tired of all the koi, having trouble functioning...
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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 566191" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Greenrene,</p><p></p><p>First off, hugs. Many of them.</p><p></p><p>Second, both IC and DF have great suggestions. Perhaps you need to back away for a while and let your husband handle her issues for now.</p><p></p><p>As for the sister in law, she may mean well, but she clearly doesn't understand. And talking to her about difficult child's junk is inviting her to weigh in with her opinion. You may need to find another outlet for your frustrations with difficult child (like US. We're here, and we understand), but sharing with her seems to be causing more stress than it's relieving.</p><p></p><p>Of course you're going to have a different relationship with your difficult child than with your other children. It's a different dynamic. I have a completely different relationship with each one of my children. I love them all, but they need different things from me. And yes, someone looking in would likely assume that I don't love difficult child as much as I love the others. That person would be wrong, but I certainly don't spend as much time with difficult child. When someone lies, and says and does hurtful things over and over again, sometimes the loving thing to do is walk away until they learn how to treat you properly. That's still a lesson-in-progress with my difficult child, but things are MUCH better than when I was heavily involved.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 566191, member: 3907"] Greenrene, First off, hugs. Many of them. Second, both IC and DF have great suggestions. Perhaps you need to back away for a while and let your husband handle her issues for now. As for the sister in law, she may mean well, but she clearly doesn't understand. And talking to her about difficult child's junk is inviting her to weigh in with her opinion. You may need to find another outlet for your frustrations with difficult child (like US. We're here, and we understand), but sharing with her seems to be causing more stress than it's relieving. Of course you're going to have a different relationship with your difficult child than with your other children. It's a different dynamic. I have a completely different relationship with each one of my children. I love them all, but they need different things from me. And yes, someone looking in would likely assume that I don't love difficult child as much as I love the others. That person would be wrong, but I certainly don't spend as much time with difficult child. When someone lies, and says and does hurtful things over and over again, sometimes the loving thing to do is walk away until they learn how to treat you properly. That's still a lesson-in-progress with my difficult child, but things are MUCH better than when I was heavily involved. [/QUOTE]
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