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So very tired of all the koi, having trouble functioning...
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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 566422" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Negative behavior gets fast strong results from everyone so we can be working our bottoms off using positive attention methods but they are still getting tons more response from the nonsense. And ignoring generally doesnt work because it in and of itself is so different they know you noticed, plus it requires every person or even animals to be able to not even glance or make a facial expression etc. There are some "planned ignoring" things that can help sometimes....like for us we can say, I won't talk about x ...but then act normally about anything else. </p><p></p><p>Your sister in law is just spewing pop psychology ideas that only apply to a certain subset of behavior challenges/situations. </p><p></p><p>That said, there are times I have to work hard to find things that should get attention. Often my son hates compliments. It can backfire. So positive attention may mean giving him extra time doing whatever he is doing without even mentioning that's what I'm doing. Gets exhausting right?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 566422, member: 12886"] Negative behavior gets fast strong results from everyone so we can be working our bottoms off using positive attention methods but they are still getting tons more response from the nonsense. And ignoring generally doesnt work because it in and of itself is so different they know you noticed, plus it requires every person or even animals to be able to not even glance or make a facial expression etc. There are some "planned ignoring" things that can help sometimes....like for us we can say, I won't talk about x ...but then act normally about anything else. Your sister in law is just spewing pop psychology ideas that only apply to a certain subset of behavior challenges/situations. That said, there are times I have to work hard to find things that should get attention. Often my son hates compliments. It can backfire. So positive attention may mean giving him extra time doing whatever he is doing without even mentioning that's what I'm doing. Gets exhausting right? [/QUOTE]
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