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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 566641" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Greenrene, I'm so sorry you are going through this.</p><p>I second, third, fourth-whatever the motion to not share too much info with-your s-i-l because she is totally clueless. Her kids are fine. There is NO comparison.</p><p>When she asks about your difficult child, just say, "Fine, a little difficult yesterday, but how are YOUR kids doing?" and just listen. It's just not worth it.</p><p></p><p>Whether your difficult child ends up being on the autism spectrum, or suffering from mental illness, or both, it is something biological, so perhaps that will help you deal with her. Sometimes, she truly can't help it. Other times, she is manipulating you and others. She doesn't "get" that when she concocts huge stories, they are so out of touch with-reality that they are going to backfire on her. It is frustrating to watch her self destruct, but it is also something you can pity. I mean, how can you not feel sorry for someone like that?</p><p></p><p>I agree with-DF and others, you'll have to back off of a few situations and let her dig her own grave. However, the medications are non-negotiable. We went through the medication argument for years with-our difficult child, and finally, between having him talk to the therapist, the family dr, and taking things away from him (computer, for ex.), we came upon the idea for husband to give difficult child his medications at 6 a.m., rain or shine, school or vacation, and then I would deal with-difficult child a half hr later, when the medications kicked in.</p><p>husband was more patient, but he was also more firm, and has bigger muscles than I do. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>You're in the thick of it. I feel for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 566641, member: 3419"] Greenrene, I'm so sorry you are going through this. I second, third, fourth-whatever the motion to not share too much info with-your s-i-l because she is totally clueless. Her kids are fine. There is NO comparison. When she asks about your difficult child, just say, "Fine, a little difficult yesterday, but how are YOUR kids doing?" and just listen. It's just not worth it. Whether your difficult child ends up being on the autism spectrum, or suffering from mental illness, or both, it is something biological, so perhaps that will help you deal with her. Sometimes, she truly can't help it. Other times, she is manipulating you and others. She doesn't "get" that when she concocts huge stories, they are so out of touch with-reality that they are going to backfire on her. It is frustrating to watch her self destruct, but it is also something you can pity. I mean, how can you not feel sorry for someone like that? I agree with-DF and others, you'll have to back off of a few situations and let her dig her own grave. However, the medications are non-negotiable. We went through the medication argument for years with-our difficult child, and finally, between having him talk to the therapist, the family dr, and taking things away from him (computer, for ex.), we came upon the idea for husband to give difficult child his medications at 6 a.m., rain or shine, school or vacation, and then I would deal with-difficult child a half hr later, when the medications kicked in. husband was more patient, but he was also more firm, and has bigger muscles than I do. :) You're in the thick of it. I feel for you. [/QUOTE]
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