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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 327478" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>My generation grew up with dress codes. Hair a certain length and style for boys. We were handed a guide book at the beginning of every year (period) read it, memorize it, follow it or face the consequences. No exceptions. This was my upbringing. We were told this was for the rest of the class and I think in some way it was so that we all "LOOKED" like decent young people. </p><p> </p><p>Boys COULD have long hair (I grew up in the 70's and 80's) if they did? They had to wear a dress-code appropriate wig during school hours. Dresses had to be as long as the end of the tip of a girls middle finger (hands extended at body length). Boys shirts were to be tucked in, belts worn, no beards, no piercings, no visible tattoos. </p><p> </p><p>Things have changed drastically. A lot of people have somewhere along the way decided that it does not matter one little bit or mean that dressing nicely equates to being nice. While I agree with this is some ways - and completely understand that this little boy is an exception and an exception could be made I also think back to the Native American Schools that whites took Sioux children to and made them give up all their Native customs, including their hair. Forcing your beliefs on someones established culture is a far different thing and I think that's where the lines got blurred. </p><p> </p><p>As far as this little boy? If the school had established rules? If the parents KNEW the rules? They should have asked for an exception for him if the hair is being grown for some worthy cause and possible this would be a non-issue. </p><p> </p><p>I will note - that DF has hair the length of his back, has tattoos, piercings and yes, we get the "stares" all the time. He's quite educated, and is a wonderful man so we get the judge a book by it's cover all the time. He also looks unapproachable - which for us is mostly good as we are allergic to most people. It's never mattered to me what anyone has looked like. It has always mattered to me about rules - but if I wasn't happy with them? I went to bat to change them.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 327478, member: 4964"] My generation grew up with dress codes. Hair a certain length and style for boys. We were handed a guide book at the beginning of every year (period) read it, memorize it, follow it or face the consequences. No exceptions. This was my upbringing. We were told this was for the rest of the class and I think in some way it was so that we all "LOOKED" like decent young people. Boys COULD have long hair (I grew up in the 70's and 80's) if they did? They had to wear a dress-code appropriate wig during school hours. Dresses had to be as long as the end of the tip of a girls middle finger (hands extended at body length). Boys shirts were to be tucked in, belts worn, no beards, no piercings, no visible tattoos. Things have changed drastically. A lot of people have somewhere along the way decided that it does not matter one little bit or mean that dressing nicely equates to being nice. While I agree with this is some ways - and completely understand that this little boy is an exception and an exception could be made I also think back to the Native American Schools that whites took Sioux children to and made them give up all their Native customs, including their hair. Forcing your beliefs on someones established culture is a far different thing and I think that's where the lines got blurred. As far as this little boy? If the school had established rules? If the parents KNEW the rules? They should have asked for an exception for him if the hair is being grown for some worthy cause and possible this would be a non-issue. I will note - that DF has hair the length of his back, has tattoos, piercings and yes, we get the "stares" all the time. He's quite educated, and is a wonderful man so we get the judge a book by it's cover all the time. He also looks unapproachable - which for us is mostly good as we are allergic to most people. It's never mattered to me what anyone has looked like. It has always mattered to me about rules - but if I wasn't happy with them? I went to bat to change them. [/QUOTE]
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