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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 614339" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EIJQsE8C5Is" target="_blank">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EIJQsE8C5Is</a><span style="font-family: 'arial'"></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'arial'"></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'arial'"></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'arial'">Here is a guided meditation that may interrupt the usual fear thoughts.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'arial'"></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'arial'">Perhaps staying in the uncomfortable space of not doing for a few days, as a possible different outcome bubbles up.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'arial'"></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'arial'">Try to make a distinction for yourself on the difference between enabling and loving kindness, looking at it as loving kindness feels good and enabling doesn't.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'arial'"></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'arial'">Ask yourself the question, "what am I willing to do without resentment?"</span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'arial'"></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'arial'">Since your son seems to rely heavily on you and husband to save him, it is not an isolated circumstance of helping our kids when they have run into a wall...........this sounds like every time he hits a wall, it becomes your responsibility and all of you have bought in to that thinking. What CAN happen is that in you not stepping in, he will have to become resourceful, not more immature and infantile. The stakes are high because <u>HE allowed that to happen.</u> Not you. In my opinion, there comes a time when we must say NO. This may be that time, only you will know that. There were many times in my own life when things felt dire, but I rose to the occasion and found solutions because there simply was no one to go to for help. Perhaps you can recall times like that with you and husband when you were younger. When we find our own answers, we are empowered and stronger, not weaker and more manipulative. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'arial'"></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'arial'">Sending you good thoughts, it's a tough place for a parent to be.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'arial'"></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'arial'"></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'arial'"></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 614339, member: 13542"] [URL]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EIJQsE8C5Is[/URL][FONT=arial] Here is a guided meditation that may interrupt the usual fear thoughts. Perhaps staying in the uncomfortable space of not doing for a few days, as a possible different outcome bubbles up. Try to make a distinction for yourself on the difference between enabling and loving kindness, looking at it as loving kindness feels good and enabling doesn't. Ask yourself the question, "what am I willing to do without resentment?" Since your son seems to rely heavily on you and husband to save him, it is not an isolated circumstance of helping our kids when they have run into a wall...........this sounds like every time he hits a wall, it becomes your responsibility and all of you have bought in to that thinking. What CAN happen is that in you not stepping in, he will have to become resourceful, not more immature and infantile. The stakes are high because [U]HE allowed that to happen.[/U] Not you. In my opinion, there comes a time when we must say NO. This may be that time, only you will know that. There were many times in my own life when things felt dire, but I rose to the occasion and found solutions because there simply was no one to go to for help. Perhaps you can recall times like that with you and husband when you were younger. When we find our own answers, we are empowered and stronger, not weaker and more manipulative. Sending you good thoughts, it's a tough place for a parent to be. [/FONT] [FONT=arial][/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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