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<blockquote data-quote="scent of cedar" data-source="post: 614345" data-attributes="member: 1721"><p>Thank you, Recovering. I will do the meditation. This is a good idea. Sitting with the discomfort has opened other possibilities, too. Things like how it could be that two adults let it get to this point again and again. Things like keeping the focus on how we carry ourselves through without succumbing to the FOG. Shared that idea with husband, this morning. </p><p></p><p>Also, shared Scott G response regarding power and attachment.</p><p></p><p>There is nothing we could do without resentment at this point.</p><p></p><p>Thinking again about our discussion on P.E. regarding adult kids who only pull themselves together when there is no other choice. Also, wondering at the pathology at the heart of this. There must be something kicking in for difficult child son to invariably come up with a crisis at the same time difficult child daughter is in crisis.</p><p></p><p>I am thinking about that old saying, something about if you always do what you have always done, you will always get what you always got.</p><p></p><p>Very hard to think of him, desperate. That is our area of vulnerability. So far, have not engaged in usual conversation re: why we need to do this with difficult child son. Am holding steady, emotionally, myself. This in itself is a change.</p><p></p><p>Did send websites for help with legal issues/evictions, salvation army link to pay electric, parish social services links.</p><p></p><p>difficult child son said they would go and stay there, because there would be no help for him.</p><p></p><p>husband and I need to not react, not respond further...then we will feel awful. You are right. It is about accepting the discomfort of that.</p><p></p><p>Ew.</p><p></p><p>Thank you again, Recovering. Posting helps me pick the color of the threads I would like to weave into this part of the tapestry. There has to be a way to change this, a way to change our own feelings of responsibility, which lead to actions which invariably are never enough.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="scent of cedar, post: 614345, member: 1721"] Thank you, Recovering. I will do the meditation. This is a good idea. Sitting with the discomfort has opened other possibilities, too. Things like how it could be that two adults let it get to this point again and again. Things like keeping the focus on how we carry ourselves through without succumbing to the FOG. Shared that idea with husband, this morning. Also, shared Scott G response regarding power and attachment. There is nothing we could do without resentment at this point. Thinking again about our discussion on P.E. regarding adult kids who only pull themselves together when there is no other choice. Also, wondering at the pathology at the heart of this. There must be something kicking in for difficult child son to invariably come up with a crisis at the same time difficult child daughter is in crisis. I am thinking about that old saying, something about if you always do what you have always done, you will always get what you always got. Very hard to think of him, desperate. That is our area of vulnerability. So far, have not engaged in usual conversation re: why we need to do this with difficult child son. Am holding steady, emotionally, myself. This in itself is a change. Did send websites for help with legal issues/evictions, salvation army link to pay electric, parish social services links. difficult child son said they would go and stay there, because there would be no help for him. husband and I need to not react, not respond further...then we will feel awful. You are right. It is about accepting the discomfort of that. Ew. Thank you again, Recovering. Posting helps me pick the color of the threads I would like to weave into this part of the tapestry. There has to be a way to change this, a way to change our own feelings of responsibility, which lead to actions which invariably are never enough. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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