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<blockquote data-quote="scent of cedar" data-source="post: 614577" data-attributes="member: 1721"><p>Yes and yes and yes, Recovering. Yes to the shame dynamic and the guilt dynamic. Yes to the change noted in those around us when we finally see through the truths we taught ourselves to protect our abusers from (in my case, anyway) the lust of vengeance. I wonder whether the difference between an abused child who grows up to be a sociopath or a murderer and those victims of abuse who, like us, internalize the experiences as shame and guilt is that those who go on to be murderers have chosen vengeance over self hate?</p><p></p><p>They say some people go around murdering their abusers again and again and again.... </p><p></p><p>You know how we are always wondering at the interconnected chains of serendipity Recovering, how we always wonder whether there is a purpose at work that we cannot comprehend. I was only able to trace that abuse/lust of vengeance connection because of the therapist who turned on me. It is true then, Recovering, that all these things were meant to happen just as they have.</p><p></p><p>It could be that we are seeing the lines, the genetic lines, set free after all, Recovering.</p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p>***********************</p><p></p><p>I will post more tomorrow. Thank you for your response, Recovering. Happy Hour, here.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="scent of cedar, post: 614577, member: 1721"] Yes and yes and yes, Recovering. Yes to the shame dynamic and the guilt dynamic. Yes to the change noted in those around us when we finally see through the truths we taught ourselves to protect our abusers from (in my case, anyway) the lust of vengeance. I wonder whether the difference between an abused child who grows up to be a sociopath or a murderer and those victims of abuse who, like us, internalize the experiences as shame and guilt is that those who go on to be murderers have chosen vengeance over self hate? They say some people go around murdering their abusers again and again and again.... You know how we are always wondering at the interconnected chains of serendipity Recovering, how we always wonder whether there is a purpose at work that we cannot comprehend. I was only able to trace that abuse/lust of vengeance connection because of the therapist who turned on me. It is true then, Recovering, that all these things were meant to happen just as they have. It could be that we are seeing the lines, the genetic lines, set free after all, Recovering. :O) *********************** I will post more tomorrow. Thank you for your response, Recovering. Happy Hour, here. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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