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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 614753" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Oh, brother. I can't make the quotes work. </p><p></p><p>Well, I just got goosebumps when you were talking about telling your daughter to cut the baloney about being a burden. I did not even SEE the manipulation in her burden response. (I can't underline anymore, either. Please excuse the caps.) Once you pointed it out Recovering, there it was, big as life. Recovering, I do understand what it cost you to do that, how scary and wrong and yet, glowingly, perfectly right it was to respond as you did, all at the same time. </p><p></p><p>Recovering! YOU ARE DOING IT. YOU ARE SUCCESSFULLY PARENTING DIFFERENTLY. </p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p>Other parents could never understand what it cost us to reach this place, this really courageous place, where we take the bull by the horns and change reality for our grown children. </p><p></p><p>And for ourselves, based on the joy and power I feel bursting through your posts lately, though I am not there yet, myself.</p><p></p><p>Our children are different kinds of people. Whether we enabled them to create it or whether it was part of the thing both parent and child are here to work their ways through, WE ARE CORRECTING IT, GOING AGAINST THE HORROR OF OUR OWN CHILDHOODS TO DO IT, STEPPING FORWARD WITH MEASURED, DETERMINED INTENT.</p><p></p><p>And you are sticking with it and succeeding, Recovering.</p><p></p><p>I could not be more pleasantly flabbergasted.</p><p></p><p>I imagine your daughter is so shaking her head over you, Recovering! :O)</p><p></p><p>I don't think difficult child son knows what to make of the situation, either. HE OFFERED TO SEND THE MONEY BACK. You believe it?</p><p></p><p>I told him he should keep it and that, if and when he paid it back, that would go a long way toward re-establishing the relationship.</p><p></p><p>And that's all I said and I couldn't care less whether he feels devalued. Well, that's not true, but whatever. He doesn't need to know how I feel about that. He will have no choice but to grow through it. Good. Long past time he grew up.</p><p></p><p>I keep thinking about what you said about enabling creating resentment and helping giving pleasure, Recovering. That was the clearest test of which of my behaviors are enabling. The change in both of us is so good, so total, Recovering.</p><p></p><p>A toast? To us, and to Janet and to all of us here, so battered and so courageous and determined. </p><p></p><p>Hear the ringing of the crystal?</p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 614753, member: 17461"] Oh, brother. I can't make the quotes work. Well, I just got goosebumps when you were talking about telling your daughter to cut the baloney about being a burden. I did not even SEE the manipulation in her burden response. (I can't underline anymore, either. Please excuse the caps.) Once you pointed it out Recovering, there it was, big as life. Recovering, I do understand what it cost you to do that, how scary and wrong and yet, glowingly, perfectly right it was to respond as you did, all at the same time. Recovering! YOU ARE DOING IT. YOU ARE SUCCESSFULLY PARENTING DIFFERENTLY. :O) Other parents could never understand what it cost us to reach this place, this really courageous place, where we take the bull by the horns and change reality for our grown children. And for ourselves, based on the joy and power I feel bursting through your posts lately, though I am not there yet, myself. Our children are different kinds of people. Whether we enabled them to create it or whether it was part of the thing both parent and child are here to work their ways through, WE ARE CORRECTING IT, GOING AGAINST THE HORROR OF OUR OWN CHILDHOODS TO DO IT, STEPPING FORWARD WITH MEASURED, DETERMINED INTENT. And you are sticking with it and succeeding, Recovering. I could not be more pleasantly flabbergasted. I imagine your daughter is so shaking her head over you, Recovering! :O) I don't think difficult child son knows what to make of the situation, either. HE OFFERED TO SEND THE MONEY BACK. You believe it? I told him he should keep it and that, if and when he paid it back, that would go a long way toward re-establishing the relationship. And that's all I said and I couldn't care less whether he feels devalued. Well, that's not true, but whatever. He doesn't need to know how I feel about that. He will have no choice but to grow through it. Good. Long past time he grew up. I keep thinking about what you said about enabling creating resentment and helping giving pleasure, Recovering. That was the clearest test of which of my behaviors are enabling. The change in both of us is so good, so total, Recovering. A toast? To us, and to Janet and to all of us here, so battered and so courageous and determined. Hear the ringing of the crystal? :O) Cedar [/QUOTE]
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