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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 614872" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>I'm heading off to bed and a bit sleepy, but I just wanted to jot down my first reaction............I'll give it more thought tomorrow............but.......my first thought was that you and husband are (perhaps) paying for the lifestyle your daughter has chosen...she isn't doing anything to heal, change, grow, understand, get better, really any positive change at all. She continues to make very bad choices which put her right in the middle of harms way. And, you are essentially financing her scary, crazy lifestyle and perhaps even allowing it to continue. If she had NO money, no choices based on what YOU send her, she might make different choices. Or not. </p><p></p><p>That comment in another post about how she was beaten until or because you didn't send money fast enough was so dramatic and so creepy that if it is true then you may give that abuser more ammunition with every dollar you send. Somehow it seems as if you are unknowingly and out of a desperate desire to make it go away.........colluding in this behavior by financially supporting it. You aren't supporting anything healthy or positive, just more money for your daughter to have more time and the freedom to make really bad choices. I can certainly understand wanting to help her, but she is saying don't come and help me, just send money. That is a familiar cry from our difficult child's, "just give me more money." </p><p></p><p>It is scary for you and husband and I can imagine the toll it's taking Cedar...........I am saying this to give you a different perspective. I think I did this with my daughter too...........I thought I was helping, but I was enabling her to stay exactly where she was.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 614872, member: 13542"] I'm heading off to bed and a bit sleepy, but I just wanted to jot down my first reaction............I'll give it more thought tomorrow............but.......my first thought was that you and husband are (perhaps) paying for the lifestyle your daughter has chosen...she isn't doing anything to heal, change, grow, understand, get better, really any positive change at all. She continues to make very bad choices which put her right in the middle of harms way. And, you are essentially financing her scary, crazy lifestyle and perhaps even allowing it to continue. If she had NO money, no choices based on what YOU send her, she might make different choices. Or not. That comment in another post about how she was beaten until or because you didn't send money fast enough was so dramatic and so creepy that if it is true then you may give that abuser more ammunition with every dollar you send. Somehow it seems as if you are unknowingly and out of a desperate desire to make it go away.........colluding in this behavior by financially supporting it. You aren't supporting anything healthy or positive, just more money for your daughter to have more time and the freedom to make really bad choices. I can certainly understand wanting to help her, but she is saying don't come and help me, just send money. That is a familiar cry from our difficult child's, "just give me more money." It is scary for you and husband and I can imagine the toll it's taking Cedar...........I am saying this to give you a different perspective. I think I did this with my daughter too...........I thought I was helping, but I was enabling her to stay exactly where she was. [/QUOTE]
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