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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 615039" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Cedar, I just had to add this...........I was talking to SO about my daughter's email. We ended up laughing about how last year I would come downstairs and say to him, "I want to do this for my daughter, but before I do, I want to know if my ideas and thinking have any holes in them." He would listen to my crazy ideas to SAVE her and tell me the truth.</p><p></p><p>I recall once wanting to just "get it over with" as your husband said, just make it all go away and I found a cheap apartment in the next town. I sat at my desk figuring it all out on paper, how I would do this ...........and when I presented my new ideas to him, he reminded me of how it would likely go...........she wouldn't pay rent, she'd have her "friends" over who would trash the place.....she'd sneak the 4 cats in and the place would smell bad, she would eventually be evicted, I would pay for all of it and she would end up exactly where she is. Why? Because she had absolutely no commitment to change. I did. Not her. As soon as he said all of that, I knew he was right and abandoned the idea immediately. Between he and my therapist and my good friend, they kept me on the straight and narrow. Until I just stopped trying to save her.</p><p></p><p>Cedar, before you take any action, ask someone not involved in this or ask us, or ask me if your ideas have any holes in them............we'll tell you the truth. And, after awhile, like me, your ideas won't have any holes............it'll be easy. Like it was with your son.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 615039, member: 13542"] Cedar, I just had to add this...........I was talking to SO about my daughter's email. We ended up laughing about how last year I would come downstairs and say to him, "I want to do this for my daughter, but before I do, I want to know if my ideas and thinking have any holes in them." He would listen to my crazy ideas to SAVE her and tell me the truth. I recall once wanting to just "get it over with" as your husband said, just make it all go away and I found a cheap apartment in the next town. I sat at my desk figuring it all out on paper, how I would do this ...........and when I presented my new ideas to him, he reminded me of how it would likely go...........she wouldn't pay rent, she'd have her "friends" over who would trash the place.....she'd sneak the 4 cats in and the place would smell bad, she would eventually be evicted, I would pay for all of it and she would end up exactly where she is. Why? Because she had absolutely no commitment to change. I did. Not her. As soon as he said all of that, I knew he was right and abandoned the idea immediately. Between he and my therapist and my good friend, they kept me on the straight and narrow. Until I just stopped trying to save her. Cedar, before you take any action, ask someone not involved in this or ask us, or ask me if your ideas have any holes in them............we'll tell you the truth. And, after awhile, like me, your ideas won't have any holes............it'll be easy. Like it was with your son. [/QUOTE]
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