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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 488126" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>How did I miss this post? I always catch your posts.... hmmmm.....</p><p></p><p>Well well, welcome to another club no one wants to admit they belong to. I spanked Q in the past for sure, and it was awful. Huge mistake for him because of his short term memory problems, all he got was... i am mad and need revenge becasue mom hit me. Really? that is why we do time lines in our house... to show cause and effect. sigh. it sure is not easy.</p><p></p><p>Bottom line, I think you are right. Set a fair rule that takes into account his need for another drink... a smallish cup, or the cup goes in the fridge at 7 pm or first a pull-up then the water. </p><p></p><p>When Q goes ape on me... well when he was smaller especially.... I would say, (sincerely, as nancy thomas says...you can't use sarcasm, you must really sincerely want to help). Q... thanks for letting me know you are having a hard time controlling your body. I am going to help you with that. I have noticed you are very tired and for a couple of days we are going to go to bed little earlier. If you can turn it around, then on Wed. we can try the regular time of bed. (of course if it really made a difference then i would find a way to keep it, but it is really just to show him that his behaivor is commuinicating something.... If it was nto tiredness that I noticed like IC it is likely hunger these days. Or I givce him his itchy cream or whatever. Sometimes as I said in a recent thread, I have used the Time-in stuff, he has to sit with me or I may even need to hold him. We do a chore together. He needs more of my guidance, MORE mommy time. And sincerely Q, thanks for letting me know because we are team (last name) and my job is to make sure you are successful and grow to a great guy. Those kinds of statements (IF he is in a processing mood, otherwise silence until the calm and then hours later we talk or a day later as you are going to do. As we say in our family and at school (with those who do care) this is all a dance, the music keeps switching so we gotta keep up and learn new steps as much as possible. </p><p></p><p>HUGS. I still think the thigs you say.... it seems there are some physical thing he is very sensitive to. Probably not a "disorder" kind of things but like my nephew who is adhd, for years we all knew to keep a water bottle around. This kid could not handle the feeling of being thirsty. (and often hunger too) He had these outrageous meltdowns. Now this kid is adhd, but was not on medications when this happened. He is just exquisitly sensitive to some biological things. when little it was hard to go on vacations, he was one of those kid who just did not do well away from home. Even though he was always excited to go somewhere....just too much. He is socially totally fine, a good athlete, joins clubs, has 'girl friends' and normal early teen stuff that goes on... his adhd now at this age affects academics, organization, getting chores done, stuff to make any mother nuts.....etc. Super sweet kid. I think of him when you mention J.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 488126, member: 12886"] How did I miss this post? I always catch your posts.... hmmmm..... Well well, welcome to another club no one wants to admit they belong to. I spanked Q in the past for sure, and it was awful. Huge mistake for him because of his short term memory problems, all he got was... i am mad and need revenge becasue mom hit me. Really? that is why we do time lines in our house... to show cause and effect. sigh. it sure is not easy. Bottom line, I think you are right. Set a fair rule that takes into account his need for another drink... a smallish cup, or the cup goes in the fridge at 7 pm or first a pull-up then the water. When Q goes ape on me... well when he was smaller especially.... I would say, (sincerely, as nancy thomas says...you can't use sarcasm, you must really sincerely want to help). Q... thanks for letting me know you are having a hard time controlling your body. I am going to help you with that. I have noticed you are very tired and for a couple of days we are going to go to bed little earlier. If you can turn it around, then on Wed. we can try the regular time of bed. (of course if it really made a difference then i would find a way to keep it, but it is really just to show him that his behaivor is commuinicating something.... If it was nto tiredness that I noticed like IC it is likely hunger these days. Or I givce him his itchy cream or whatever. Sometimes as I said in a recent thread, I have used the Time-in stuff, he has to sit with me or I may even need to hold him. We do a chore together. He needs more of my guidance, MORE mommy time. And sincerely Q, thanks for letting me know because we are team (last name) and my job is to make sure you are successful and grow to a great guy. Those kinds of statements (IF he is in a processing mood, otherwise silence until the calm and then hours later we talk or a day later as you are going to do. As we say in our family and at school (with those who do care) this is all a dance, the music keeps switching so we gotta keep up and learn new steps as much as possible. HUGS. I still think the thigs you say.... it seems there are some physical thing he is very sensitive to. Probably not a "disorder" kind of things but like my nephew who is adhd, for years we all knew to keep a water bottle around. This kid could not handle the feeling of being thirsty. (and often hunger too) He had these outrageous meltdowns. Now this kid is adhd, but was not on medications when this happened. He is just exquisitly sensitive to some biological things. when little it was hard to go on vacations, he was one of those kid who just did not do well away from home. Even though he was always excited to go somewhere....just too much. He is socially totally fine, a good athlete, joins clubs, has 'girl friends' and normal early teen stuff that goes on... his adhd now at this age affects academics, organization, getting chores done, stuff to make any mother nuts.....etc. Super sweet kid. I think of him when you mention J. [/QUOTE]
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