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Some observations about difficult child. Not sure what to do with them, or nothing at all
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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 542485" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>We stopped to Subway today to grab a lunch and difficult child managed to even annoy a waiter there. And it was nothing he said, he just said hi, ordered his sandwich and thanked, but it was easy to see, that the waiter thought he was total jerk and I can see why. He was leaning to the counter (as I said, he never stands straight), talking in very arrogant tone, using annoying accent etc. Just really giving a bad impression. I don't really know how much he for example swears normally (he does not really do that, when I'm there, which does show he is somewhat aware) but he does use very annoying wannabe-cool 'big city' teen slang, that doesn't go well even here in that city and I'm sure even less so in 'backwoods' there he lives.</p><p></p><p>I'm considering trying to talk with him about it. Just pointing out that he does sound rather immature and too arrogant. The way he talks is usually associated to (dumb) teen girls and boys around 15 and even the youth slang has many derogatory terms to describe those kids. While I don't usually agree using those derogatory terms to describe kids who are just in difficult age and trying to come off as older and more experienced, I think pointing out that the way he talks is not giving an impression he probably hopes could be something difficult child needs to know. Of course he will likely not listen mommy telling him that, but I still feel I maybe should, because really, he is making his life harder very unnecessarily. And it is plenty enough hard even without it.</p><p></p><p>Then again I don't want to give impression that he does nothing right and everything in him should be changed. But right now he comes off as a total jerk. Of course it could be that he really is total jerk and I just don't want to see that. But I don't believe that. Yes I'm his mom and not objective at all, but I see so much nice and sweet in him, I find it a shame he portraits so obnoxious image of himself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 542485, member: 14557"] We stopped to Subway today to grab a lunch and difficult child managed to even annoy a waiter there. And it was nothing he said, he just said hi, ordered his sandwich and thanked, but it was easy to see, that the waiter thought he was total jerk and I can see why. He was leaning to the counter (as I said, he never stands straight), talking in very arrogant tone, using annoying accent etc. Just really giving a bad impression. I don't really know how much he for example swears normally (he does not really do that, when I'm there, which does show he is somewhat aware) but he does use very annoying wannabe-cool 'big city' teen slang, that doesn't go well even here in that city and I'm sure even less so in 'backwoods' there he lives. I'm considering trying to talk with him about it. Just pointing out that he does sound rather immature and too arrogant. The way he talks is usually associated to (dumb) teen girls and boys around 15 and even the youth slang has many derogatory terms to describe those kids. While I don't usually agree using those derogatory terms to describe kids who are just in difficult age and trying to come off as older and more experienced, I think pointing out that the way he talks is not giving an impression he probably hopes could be something difficult child needs to know. Of course he will likely not listen mommy telling him that, but I still feel I maybe should, because really, he is making his life harder very unnecessarily. And it is plenty enough hard even without it. Then again I don't want to give impression that he does nothing right and everything in him should be changed. But right now he comes off as a total jerk. Of course it could be that he really is total jerk and I just don't want to see that. But I don't believe that. Yes I'm his mom and not objective at all, but I see so much nice and sweet in him, I find it a shame he portraits so obnoxious image of himself. [/QUOTE]
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