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Some observations about difficult child. Not sure what to do with them, or nothing at all
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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 542795" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>Well, it ended up being husband who couldn't keep his mouth shut about these irritations any more. Maybe luckily he blew up only about the posture thing. It started about the use of furniture. difficult child has never really consistently used furnitures like most people. For example most people tend to use chairs so that their head is the top part of their body, feet the lowest and their bottom touches a seat. Not difficult child. This morning he was 'sitting' in armchair in living room, surfing net with his laptop and drinking his coffee and eating oatmeal. Laptop and his plate were at floor, coffee mug was on the arm rest, his knees were the uppermost part of him (over the backrest), his side was on the seat and somehow he manage to wrangle himself so that his elbows were on the floor and his face was pointing 180 degrees opposite compared to his toes. husband wondered if we should go to library and get one of easy child's favourite books from his early toddlerhood, there the protagonist tries to do all kinds of everyday tasks (getting up from the bed, dressing himself, sitting to breakfast table etc.) and nothing really goes quite right first but then 'the correct way' is advised. It indeed had a part of sitting in the chair. husband was musing about how we clearly didn't read the book often enough to difficult child when he was younger and asked if it would help if we read it to him now. </p><p></p><p>It would had been just fine if it had stopped there, but also husband is frustrated with difficult child making things harder than they have to be, so he went on about difficult child's worm like posture and how he can expect anyone to treat him with anykind of respect if he cant even stand straight and be a man. husband really was frustrated so I feared it could get ugly and intervened and tried to make it more light by chiming in and making it an old inside joke/silly family game, there I make some totally outlandish claim to support some requirement, rule or something I have made up and demand others (usually kids) to prove me wrong before I budge. So I claimed standing with so bad posture will make his bones bend and get groovy and cause pimples and greasy hair. Rules of the game are, that now I'm allowed to nag about how he carries himself until he proves my claims wrong. And believe me, it is difficult to prove something outlandish wrong. For example difficult child has not yet been able to prove me that cheese is not an integral part of make of of the moon and he did try hard at the time. (He was around 12 and liked cheese, was always hungry and ended up eating all cheese from our fridge often, I made a claim that somehow cheese in fridge, moon being (partly) cheese and moon not collapsing our planet were connecting and that is why he wasn't allowed to eat all the cheese from fridge. Can't remember the whole story any more, but difficult child was never able to prove it wrong and because of that was disallowed of eating all of the cheese.)</p><p></p><p>I do hope I managed to steer it more to light and silly because I just feel that difficult child is not able to handle too much heavier criticism from also us right now. I still may talk with him a little about his accent in second-language, if I get a good chance, but other than that I try to point out positives I see and compliment him from even small things. Right now I'm watching from window him working out in garden with kettlebells and doing yoga type things. It's difficult to even believe that the beautiful and athletic young man in our garden is the same worm like guy he usually is.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 542795, member: 14557"] Well, it ended up being husband who couldn't keep his mouth shut about these irritations any more. Maybe luckily he blew up only about the posture thing. It started about the use of furniture. difficult child has never really consistently used furnitures like most people. For example most people tend to use chairs so that their head is the top part of their body, feet the lowest and their bottom touches a seat. Not difficult child. This morning he was 'sitting' in armchair in living room, surfing net with his laptop and drinking his coffee and eating oatmeal. Laptop and his plate were at floor, coffee mug was on the arm rest, his knees were the uppermost part of him (over the backrest), his side was on the seat and somehow he manage to wrangle himself so that his elbows were on the floor and his face was pointing 180 degrees opposite compared to his toes. husband wondered if we should go to library and get one of easy child's favourite books from his early toddlerhood, there the protagonist tries to do all kinds of everyday tasks (getting up from the bed, dressing himself, sitting to breakfast table etc.) and nothing really goes quite right first but then 'the correct way' is advised. It indeed had a part of sitting in the chair. husband was musing about how we clearly didn't read the book often enough to difficult child when he was younger and asked if it would help if we read it to him now. It would had been just fine if it had stopped there, but also husband is frustrated with difficult child making things harder than they have to be, so he went on about difficult child's worm like posture and how he can expect anyone to treat him with anykind of respect if he cant even stand straight and be a man. husband really was frustrated so I feared it could get ugly and intervened and tried to make it more light by chiming in and making it an old inside joke/silly family game, there I make some totally outlandish claim to support some requirement, rule or something I have made up and demand others (usually kids) to prove me wrong before I budge. So I claimed standing with so bad posture will make his bones bend and get groovy and cause pimples and greasy hair. Rules of the game are, that now I'm allowed to nag about how he carries himself until he proves my claims wrong. And believe me, it is difficult to prove something outlandish wrong. For example difficult child has not yet been able to prove me that cheese is not an integral part of make of of the moon and he did try hard at the time. (He was around 12 and liked cheese, was always hungry and ended up eating all cheese from our fridge often, I made a claim that somehow cheese in fridge, moon being (partly) cheese and moon not collapsing our planet were connecting and that is why he wasn't allowed to eat all the cheese from fridge. Can't remember the whole story any more, but difficult child was never able to prove it wrong and because of that was disallowed of eating all of the cheese.) I do hope I managed to steer it more to light and silly because I just feel that difficult child is not able to handle too much heavier criticism from also us right now. I still may talk with him a little about his accent in second-language, if I get a good chance, but other than that I try to point out positives I see and compliment him from even small things. Right now I'm watching from window him working out in garden with kettlebells and doing yoga type things. It's difficult to even believe that the beautiful and athletic young man in our garden is the same worm like guy he usually is. [/QUOTE]
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