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Some observations about difficult child. Not sure what to do with them, or nothing at all
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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 543615" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>Got a chance to talk with difficult child about impression he gives when talking in second language. I kept it about only that, accent, choice of words etc. He did listen. Other than that I don't know. But still, listening is a good thing. Even if he does think I was talking total nonsense and totally disagrees with me, at least he did listen without making a fight out of it. And that is very mature from him. Of course I did wait for perfect opportunity when we were alone, he was relaxed and in good mood and I tried to choose my words carefully, be non-judgemental, keep it impersonal and compliment strides he has made socially.</p><p></p><p>He didn't comment a lot, just that it is stupid that those kind of things would even matter. But he did agree that they may matter. I agreed with him that it is indeed error in the world, but pointed out that it is one of those errors we can not do anything about, just have to adapt.</p><p></p><p>No idea if he plans to do anything about it, but at least we were able to have a civil conversation about it. And it is always like that with him. If you want to introduce some new idea to him or get him to make some change you have to first talk about it and just introduce the idea and let it be and let him think about it. Then few weeks later you are often able to go back to it and talk about it more. Or he may even try it by himself. But trying to pressure him to something new right away always ends up badly. He tends to need time to think things through before he is able to adapt.</p><p></p><p>So I may know sometime at fall if that little talk helped at all.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 543615, member: 14557"] Got a chance to talk with difficult child about impression he gives when talking in second language. I kept it about only that, accent, choice of words etc. He did listen. Other than that I don't know. But still, listening is a good thing. Even if he does think I was talking total nonsense and totally disagrees with me, at least he did listen without making a fight out of it. And that is very mature from him. Of course I did wait for perfect opportunity when we were alone, he was relaxed and in good mood and I tried to choose my words carefully, be non-judgemental, keep it impersonal and compliment strides he has made socially. He didn't comment a lot, just that it is stupid that those kind of things would even matter. But he did agree that they may matter. I agreed with him that it is indeed error in the world, but pointed out that it is one of those errors we can not do anything about, just have to adapt. No idea if he plans to do anything about it, but at least we were able to have a civil conversation about it. And it is always like that with him. If you want to introduce some new idea to him or get him to make some change you have to first talk about it and just introduce the idea and let it be and let him think about it. Then few weeks later you are often able to go back to it and talk about it more. Or he may even try it by himself. But trying to pressure him to something new right away always ends up badly. He tends to need time to think things through before he is able to adapt. So I may know sometime at fall if that little talk helped at all. [/QUOTE]
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