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Somebody called CPS on me and now I'm worried
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 646278" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>The friend who's ex lost the chance for custody with the cited reason being his home didn't have a bedroom for the daughter separate from the sons and dad also had a bathroom separated from the rest of the house by curtains hung on pvc pipes dangling from the ceiling - meaning the bathroom/shower was in the same room as everything else and the 'shower' was an open pipe above a floor drain, not an actual shower. The SW who evaluated it didn't want to get into the fact that the dad also smoked a ton of pot, was suspected of using harder drugs, and had 2 convicted child molesters hanging around constantly when his kids were there - one 'friend' liked boys his son's age and was the one who dreamed up the bathroom curtains rather than putting sme walls in (the walls were roughed in, but this ex con took them out to put up 'curtains' for suspicious reasons - one of his convictions was for putting cameras in public restrooms used mostly by children at a children's park!). The other ex con 'friend' victimized girls their daughter's age, and the SW was upset at either of these men being around all the time at Dad's new place. She cited the city code about separate bedrooms because it was easier than going into all the reasons of the molester friends, etc... The kids had the option to live in a 4 bdr home with their mom, which is where the kids desperately wanted to be because they were flat uot terrified of their dad when he was using and of his friends. If all the family could afford was a 1 bdr, then it would have been okay. But the dad was literally living in a storefront in a strip mall in a horribly dangerous part of town while the mom lived in a decent home in a decent neighborhood. </p><p></p><p>So don't fret overly about the bedrooms, esp as you are trying to get into a 2bdr. If there was a rule about it in your area, your apartment could not be low income and rent to you with the 2 kids there.</p><p></p><p>I had a friend who was a SW. If the home was not covered in filth, or infested with mice, it was no big deal. Even a day or two's dishes in the sink was not grounds to remove kids, it was weeks of dishes that got kids removed. And animal poo on the floors everywhere, not clutter.</p><p></p><p>Your mom needs to back off. </p><p></p><p>I am glad that you spoke to someone who can help. If they go after your daughter and make her miserable, go after them. They are already WAY overstepping their bounds because they think you won't complain to anyone or call in the state. We can help you do that. The state will help provide you with a FREE advocate to help MAKE the school follow both their own rules AND the federal IEP rules. And if the dr says it is excused the school CANNOT say it doesn't count unless you ALLOW it. And you stop them by getting an advocate. CA has some of the most individual centered rules in the state, meaning the law is almost certainly on YOUR side if you can insist that they follow it. </p><p></p><p>Chill out, let the SW know that the principal is trying to bully you by calling CPS when it is not warranted, and tell them what the principal did. If she is the caller, it will certainly be taken into account.</p><p></p><p>Hugs.</p><p></p><p>I didn't realize about the molester friends until yesterday when I connected with the friend on fb. She told me the whole ugly story and the SW's report cited a TON of problems beside the bedrooms that led to the dad not getting custody of any sort. The dad hadn't been involved with the kids at all even when he was married to the mom, but he wanted custody because he didn't want to pay child support. He thought he could get at least 50% custody and not have to pay anything to his ex, who he had insisted be a stay at home mom and not work for their entire marriage. He had to pay child support and alimony and pay back half of what he took from their joint accounts and his 401k, which is what he did't want to do because he blew it on drugs and a girlfriend. </p><p></p><p>So don't worry so much!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 646278, member: 1233"] The friend who's ex lost the chance for custody with the cited reason being his home didn't have a bedroom for the daughter separate from the sons and dad also had a bathroom separated from the rest of the house by curtains hung on pvc pipes dangling from the ceiling - meaning the bathroom/shower was in the same room as everything else and the 'shower' was an open pipe above a floor drain, not an actual shower. The SW who evaluated it didn't want to get into the fact that the dad also smoked a ton of pot, was suspected of using harder drugs, and had 2 convicted child molesters hanging around constantly when his kids were there - one 'friend' liked boys his son's age and was the one who dreamed up the bathroom curtains rather than putting sme walls in (the walls were roughed in, but this ex con took them out to put up 'curtains' for suspicious reasons - one of his convictions was for putting cameras in public restrooms used mostly by children at a children's park!). The other ex con 'friend' victimized girls their daughter's age, and the SW was upset at either of these men being around all the time at Dad's new place. She cited the city code about separate bedrooms because it was easier than going into all the reasons of the molester friends, etc... The kids had the option to live in a 4 bdr home with their mom, which is where the kids desperately wanted to be because they were flat uot terrified of their dad when he was using and of his friends. If all the family could afford was a 1 bdr, then it would have been okay. But the dad was literally living in a storefront in a strip mall in a horribly dangerous part of town while the mom lived in a decent home in a decent neighborhood. So don't fret overly about the bedrooms, esp as you are trying to get into a 2bdr. If there was a rule about it in your area, your apartment could not be low income and rent to you with the 2 kids there. I had a friend who was a SW. If the home was not covered in filth, or infested with mice, it was no big deal. Even a day or two's dishes in the sink was not grounds to remove kids, it was weeks of dishes that got kids removed. And animal poo on the floors everywhere, not clutter. Your mom needs to back off. I am glad that you spoke to someone who can help. If they go after your daughter and make her miserable, go after them. They are already WAY overstepping their bounds because they think you won't complain to anyone or call in the state. We can help you do that. The state will help provide you with a FREE advocate to help MAKE the school follow both their own rules AND the federal IEP rules. And if the dr says it is excused the school CANNOT say it doesn't count unless you ALLOW it. And you stop them by getting an advocate. CA has some of the most individual centered rules in the state, meaning the law is almost certainly on YOUR side if you can insist that they follow it. Chill out, let the SW know that the principal is trying to bully you by calling CPS when it is not warranted, and tell them what the principal did. If she is the caller, it will certainly be taken into account. Hugs. I didn't realize about the molester friends until yesterday when I connected with the friend on fb. She told me the whole ugly story and the SW's report cited a TON of problems beside the bedrooms that led to the dad not getting custody of any sort. The dad hadn't been involved with the kids at all even when he was married to the mom, but he wanted custody because he didn't want to pay child support. He thought he could get at least 50% custody and not have to pay anything to his ex, who he had insisted be a stay at home mom and not work for their entire marriage. He had to pay child support and alimony and pay back half of what he took from their joint accounts and his 401k, which is what he did't want to do because he blew it on drugs and a girlfriend. So don't worry so much!! [/QUOTE]
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