Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Something cooking with difficult child....
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 117711" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>I'm just now catching up on this thread, Barbara. Your reactions seem very expected and normal to me. </p><p></p><p>I do hope that you and hubby will discuss this at some point very soon. I know that it's really painful. I think that you can find support in each other. Or maybe it will be that one of you takes the lead, and the other will support. I don't know that we always have to agree with each other about exactly what we will do, but it has surprised both husband and I in recent years that when we talk to each other about our concerns, from time to time he (or I) will have an idea about what to do, and I (or he) will say, "If this is something you are willing to take on, I will support you." Usually that part is the intermediary business, if you know what I mean. That way, if the one who is doing the "dealing with" part of the job starts to falter, we can go back to the other for support. Then I (or he) can jump in with advice as to how to accomplish the goal, or even step in and say "You know, difficult child, this is what your dad wants, and I have agreed to support him in this. You may want to work on alternate plans if this isn't working for you."</p><p></p><p>Big hugs. You must be feeling like you've been in a cyclone today. Talk to your hubby. It's got to be done at some point. The sooner the easier...</p><p></p><p>P.S. That commercial? That just seems cruel. I haven't seen it, but I don't know that I would want the help of an agency that said "give me your money or your kid will die because you are doing such a total cr@p job." It seems to me they picked the right group of people to manipulate. They know we have been manipulated by our kids for years and it has worked in the past. Just plain cruel...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 117711, member: 99"] I'm just now catching up on this thread, Barbara. Your reactions seem very expected and normal to me. I do hope that you and hubby will discuss this at some point very soon. I know that it's really painful. I think that you can find support in each other. Or maybe it will be that one of you takes the lead, and the other will support. I don't know that we always have to agree with each other about exactly what we will do, but it has surprised both husband and I in recent years that when we talk to each other about our concerns, from time to time he (or I) will have an idea about what to do, and I (or he) will say, "If this is something you are willing to take on, I will support you." Usually that part is the intermediary business, if you know what I mean. That way, if the one who is doing the "dealing with" part of the job starts to falter, we can go back to the other for support. Then I (or he) can jump in with advice as to how to accomplish the goal, or even step in and say "You know, difficult child, this is what your dad wants, and I have agreed to support him in this. You may want to work on alternate plans if this isn't working for you." Big hugs. You must be feeling like you've been in a cyclone today. Talk to your hubby. It's got to be done at some point. The sooner the easier... P.S. That commercial? That just seems cruel. I haven't seen it, but I don't know that I would want the help of an agency that said "give me your money or your kid will die because you are doing such a total cr@p job." It seems to me they picked the right group of people to manipulate. They know we have been manipulated by our kids for years and it has worked in the past. Just plain cruel... [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Something cooking with difficult child....
Top