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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 618546" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Thanks Cedar, I think that's good information. I'm so glad you and husband are feeling better these days.</p><p></p><p>I do believe with your new outlook and all the healing you've recently done, your recovery time will shift considerably now. You are out of the FOG for all intents and purposes and once we can see reality as it really is, we are not sucker punched anymore, we know the truth and there may be some bumps, but recovery is WAY less in time. At least that has been my experience. </p><p></p><p>As in life in general, we humans adapt very well. And also, in giving up so much control, it isn't necessary any more to hold on so darn tight, we can let go easier which of course, allows us to spring back to health quicker. Our attachments to the way we want it to be and our efforts to keep it that way create an energy of fear and tightness..............which is not exactly going with the flow...........I think when we are healthier, being less controlling, being more in the moment, seeing the truth and making caring for ourselves as our <u>first</u> priority means the time spent being overwhelmed and suffering is greatly limited.</p><p></p><p>As I endeavor down this path and learn from my mistakes, heal from my own traumas and learn how to let go and accept what is...........each event gets much less dramatic and much less intense. The intensity was how the old game was played...........it included judgement, feeling right, enabling, the need to control, attachments to the way I thought it was supposed to be.........all of the stuff we've discussed before...........when all of that dissipates, life events with difficult child daughter are severely less dramatic since my view of them is severely less dramatic. It is what it is. That acceptance changes the entire playing field. </p><p></p><p>Is the bad guy in jail now? Are difficult child daughter and granddaughter doing okay in the shelter? Are they planning on staying the course there so difficult child daughter can receive the appropriate health care? When you return after the winter, do you return to where difficult child daughter is? </p><p></p><p>As always, sending you and husband caring thoughts............</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 618546, member: 13542"] Thanks Cedar, I think that's good information. I'm so glad you and husband are feeling better these days. I do believe with your new outlook and all the healing you've recently done, your recovery time will shift considerably now. You are out of the FOG for all intents and purposes and once we can see reality as it really is, we are not sucker punched anymore, we know the truth and there may be some bumps, but recovery is WAY less in time. At least that has been my experience. As in life in general, we humans adapt very well. And also, in giving up so much control, it isn't necessary any more to hold on so darn tight, we can let go easier which of course, allows us to spring back to health quicker. Our attachments to the way we want it to be and our efforts to keep it that way create an energy of fear and tightness..............which is not exactly going with the flow...........I think when we are healthier, being less controlling, being more in the moment, seeing the truth and making caring for ourselves as our [U]first[/U] priority means the time spent being overwhelmed and suffering is greatly limited. As I endeavor down this path and learn from my mistakes, heal from my own traumas and learn how to let go and accept what is...........each event gets much less dramatic and much less intense. The intensity was how the old game was played...........it included judgement, feeling right, enabling, the need to control, attachments to the way I thought it was supposed to be.........all of the stuff we've discussed before...........when all of that dissipates, life events with difficult child daughter are severely less dramatic since my view of them is severely less dramatic. It is what it is. That acceptance changes the entire playing field. Is the bad guy in jail now? Are difficult child daughter and granddaughter doing okay in the shelter? Are they planning on staying the course there so difficult child daughter can receive the appropriate health care? When you return after the winter, do you return to where difficult child daughter is? As always, sending you and husband caring thoughts............ [/QUOTE]
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