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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 750657" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Helpless. I am so sorry for this turn of events. I don't know what to think. Your son deliberately acted badly with his grandparents. There was no stopping him. </p><p></p><p>Now that he's back in custody, he may feel backed in a corner. He may be identifying with the gang for self-protective reasons. There is a lot of pressure in custody to affiliate along racial and ethnic lines. It's very hard to NOT do so. Especially for a kid. That he is doing so does not necessarily mean he will continue to do so. But you're right. He is creating problems with himself. The cutting may be part of the same thing, a way to maneuver to get himself out of a tight spot. </p><p></p><p>I guess what I am thinking is that the acting out at the grandparents, and the acting out in custody may be two different kinds of choices.</p><p></p><p>The kernel of positivity here is that it sounds like he is being open with you. </p><p></p><p>What can you do? He's in a situation where things are pretty determined for him. And he lacks the judgement and maturity to navigate in this circumstance. I just want to say that it might not be as bad as it seems. He may be doing the best he can do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 750657, member: 18958"] Helpless. I am so sorry for this turn of events. I don't know what to think. Your son deliberately acted badly with his grandparents. There was no stopping him. Now that he's back in custody, he may feel backed in a corner. He may be identifying with the gang for self-protective reasons. There is a lot of pressure in custody to affiliate along racial and ethnic lines. It's very hard to NOT do so. Especially for a kid. That he is doing so does not necessarily mean he will continue to do so. But you're right. He is creating problems with himself. The cutting may be part of the same thing, a way to maneuver to get himself out of a tight spot. I guess what I am thinking is that the acting out at the grandparents, and the acting out in custody may be two different kinds of choices. The kernel of positivity here is that it sounds like he is being open with you. What can you do? He's in a situation where things are pretty determined for him. And he lacks the judgement and maturity to navigate in this circumstance. I just want to say that it might not be as bad as it seems. He may be doing the best he can do. [/QUOTE]
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