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<blockquote data-quote="Rina" data-source="post: 653960" data-attributes="member: 18848"><p>It's hard not to feel as if this is at least partially my fault. And it's hard to figure out what to do next. It's like there is no end to this mess and I am exhausted and can't see the light at the end of the tunnel.</p><p></p><p>@<a href="http://www.conductdisorders.com/community/members/somewhereoutthere.1550/" target="_blank">SomewhereOutThere</a>: I had my husband read your post as well. A lot of what you wrote fits the feeling of our situation, even if not the exact details. I agree with you about older children.... I have another adopted child, a daughter, also adopted internationally (not from the same country as our son). She was adopted at 1 year old, and even before this crisis started, I remember wondering about the huge difference between them. She is very close to us, he isn't, at all. I think we went into this the wrong way. I remember, back when the agency people asked if we would be willing to consider adopting an older child, I imagined all these older children at the orphanage, crying themselves to sleep and wondering why they weren't "chosen" while all the younger ones were adopted... I was so stupid. These kids were not sitting around waiting for us. They were living their lives to the best of their ability. </p><p>I can definitely see my son leaving us the way yours has. He doesn't seem to mind being away from us. It's as if he doesn't have anything in his mind or heart other than himself and the drugs. </p><p></p><p>At least he's still at the detox center. It could have been worse.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Rina, post: 653960, member: 18848"] It's hard not to feel as if this is at least partially my fault. And it's hard to figure out what to do next. It's like there is no end to this mess and I am exhausted and can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. @[URL='http://www.conductdisorders.com/community/members/somewhereoutthere.1550/']SomewhereOutThere[/URL]: I had my husband read your post as well. A lot of what you wrote fits the feeling of our situation, even if not the exact details. I agree with you about older children.... I have another adopted child, a daughter, also adopted internationally (not from the same country as our son). She was adopted at 1 year old, and even before this crisis started, I remember wondering about the huge difference between them. She is very close to us, he isn't, at all. I think we went into this the wrong way. I remember, back when the agency people asked if we would be willing to consider adopting an older child, I imagined all these older children at the orphanage, crying themselves to sleep and wondering why they weren't "chosen" while all the younger ones were adopted... I was so stupid. These kids were not sitting around waiting for us. They were living their lives to the best of their ability. I can definitely see my son leaving us the way yours has. He doesn't seem to mind being away from us. It's as if he doesn't have anything in his mind or heart other than himself and the drugs. At least he's still at the detox center. It could have been worse. [/QUOTE]
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