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Son says "You are dead to me".....
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 587130" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Yes, a child we adopted at age six walked away from us and we haven't heard from him in ages and probably never will. Your situation is different, but this is how I see it.</p><p></p><p>You did not mention drugs, but I think this kid taking drugs, whether he hides it well or not. That makes them lazy, unambitious and nasty. But there is obviously more to this story: You cut off his money, which was the right decision to make in my opinion. I wouldn't pay my grown kid to act like a child who has no real ambition and wants me to pay all his bills. But mom and stepdad want to be popular with him so they do pay. So...he cuts you out because you are taking the hard stand with him. He probably doesn't respect his mother and stepdad anymore than you, in fact he probably sees them as fools, but he isn't going to cut them off while the money is flowing. by the way, hope you're not paying for his cell phone, car insurance, etc. If so, my suggestion is to cut that off since he is disrespecting you and doing absolutely nothing about growing up. Let mom/stepdad to pay EVERYTHING. If he wn't answer your calls or texts, make h im find another way to fund his cell phone. He MUST continue to at least respect you and not think of you as a pushover, like mom/stepdad. He needs at least one strong parent.</p><p></p><p>I hope you stand strong. He isn't making mature decisions and probably is doing drugs. Eventually his mom and stepdad will get tired of footing his bills, then he'll disown them too.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 587130, member: 1550"] Yes, a child we adopted at age six walked away from us and we haven't heard from him in ages and probably never will. Your situation is different, but this is how I see it. You did not mention drugs, but I think this kid taking drugs, whether he hides it well or not. That makes them lazy, unambitious and nasty. But there is obviously more to this story: You cut off his money, which was the right decision to make in my opinion. I wouldn't pay my grown kid to act like a child who has no real ambition and wants me to pay all his bills. But mom and stepdad want to be popular with him so they do pay. So...he cuts you out because you are taking the hard stand with him. He probably doesn't respect his mother and stepdad anymore than you, in fact he probably sees them as fools, but he isn't going to cut them off while the money is flowing. by the way, hope you're not paying for his cell phone, car insurance, etc. If so, my suggestion is to cut that off since he is disrespecting you and doing absolutely nothing about growing up. Let mom/stepdad to pay EVERYTHING. If he wn't answer your calls or texts, make h im find another way to fund his cell phone. He MUST continue to at least respect you and not think of you as a pushover, like mom/stepdad. He needs at least one strong parent. I hope you stand strong. He isn't making mature decisions and probably is doing drugs. Eventually his mom and stepdad will get tired of footing his bills, then he'll disown them too. Hang in there. [/QUOTE]
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