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Son self-sabotages every opportunity
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<blockquote data-quote="Nandina" data-source="post: 764072" data-attributes="member: 23742"><p>Thank you for your comments, Deni. As someone who has been through it and come out the other side, your perspective means a lot to me.</p><p></p><p>(My quote thingy is not working but I’ll respond without it) </p><p></p><p>Yes, it is easy for someone naive and immature like my son to be taken advantage of and believe me, he has been taken advantage of or manipulated multiple times.</p><p></p><p>As far as coming in contact with good people, all his life he seemed to attract friends who were not a good influence and most behaved just like him or worse. He is a follower. He has one friend left who is actually a good influence, but he has left the area though he stays in touch. I think he has been waiting for my son to grow up but I feel he will eventually outgrow my son, as the friend is maturing as a normal 22 year old would and my son is exactly where he was four years ago at age 18. No growth whatsoever. Every time I saw what I considered growth, he would revert back to his old ways and prove me wrong.</p><p></p><p>I think asking your son “what do you think you should do about that?” makes him responsible for his own behavior, but I guarantee you if I asked my son the same question, his response would be, “I don’t know.” That is always his answer. He seems incapable of either holding himself accountable for his behavior or really addressing it in any way. Sometimes in frustration, I have replied, “Yes you DO know!</p><p></p><p>Your prayers are appreciated, Deni. Thank you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nandina, post: 764072, member: 23742"] Thank you for your comments, Deni. As someone who has been through it and come out the other side, your perspective means a lot to me. (My quote thingy is not working but I’ll respond without it) Yes, it is easy for someone naive and immature like my son to be taken advantage of and believe me, he has been taken advantage of or manipulated multiple times. As far as coming in contact with good people, all his life he seemed to attract friends who were not a good influence and most behaved just like him or worse. He is a follower. He has one friend left who is actually a good influence, but he has left the area though he stays in touch. I think he has been waiting for my son to grow up but I feel he will eventually outgrow my son, as the friend is maturing as a normal 22 year old would and my son is exactly where he was four years ago at age 18. No growth whatsoever. Every time I saw what I considered growth, he would revert back to his old ways and prove me wrong. I think asking your son “what do you think you should do about that?” makes him responsible for his own behavior, but I guarantee you if I asked my son the same question, his response would be, “I don’t know.” That is always his answer. He seems incapable of either holding himself accountable for his behavior or really addressing it in any way. Sometimes in frustration, I have replied, “Yes you DO know! Your prayers are appreciated, Deni. Thank you. [/QUOTE]
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