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<blockquote data-quote="overcome mom" data-source="post: 747436" data-attributes="member: 23328"><p>Helpless, I too have been in situations where I can see the writing on the wall and try and get by son to read it but he can't. Now I see that I can show him the wall but it's up to him to read it. It sounds to me that a lot of your son's reasoning comes from being young and immature. My son sounded the same at his age , I was the one who just didn't understand what was happening, I was making more of a situation than there was ,etc. The problem is now he sees what he is doing wrong a good part of the time but continues making the same mistakes over and over again. </p><p> This is the hardest thing to learn as a parent because for years it has been our jobs to do that, control their behavior . Then as they get older we have no control. One of the worse thing as a parent is to watch your child make mistakes that hurt themselves and others when you have tried to teach them between right and wrong. I try and make small suggestions to my son , a little at a time and then listen to him rant. I also try to realize that he is probably not going to listen to what I say. You have done what you can and the rest is up to him and the courts. My son had been locked up many times and each time I hate it. It is not a good place for them to be but in this society it is sometimes the only place they can be. I have bailed my son out too many times and I am still not sure if I should have or not. We all just make the best decisions we can under the circumstances.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="overcome mom, post: 747436, member: 23328"] Helpless, I too have been in situations where I can see the writing on the wall and try and get by son to read it but he can't. Now I see that I can show him the wall but it's up to him to read it. It sounds to me that a lot of your son's reasoning comes from being young and immature. My son sounded the same at his age , I was the one who just didn't understand what was happening, I was making more of a situation than there was ,etc. The problem is now he sees what he is doing wrong a good part of the time but continues making the same mistakes over and over again. This is the hardest thing to learn as a parent because for years it has been our jobs to do that, control their behavior . Then as they get older we have no control. One of the worse thing as a parent is to watch your child make mistakes that hurt themselves and others when you have tried to teach them between right and wrong. I try and make small suggestions to my son , a little at a time and then listen to him rant. I also try to realize that he is probably not going to listen to what I say. You have done what you can and the rest is up to him and the courts. My son had been locked up many times and each time I hate it. It is not a good place for them to be but in this society it is sometimes the only place they can be. I have bailed my son out too many times and I am still not sure if I should have or not. We all just make the best decisions we can under the circumstances. [/QUOTE]
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