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Son threatened me emotionally and I"m so tired. Did I do the right thing?
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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 300809"><p>MWM,</p><p> </p><p>If you are using actual names in your post...You might consider editing your post to include first initials instead of real names. Someone might be able to identify your family based on these names. It's a small, but real possibility and since other people are involved, it is only fair to grant privacy to all.</p><p> </p><p>ETA: I think you changed some of this...nice.</p><p> </p><p>It's hard to say what is right and what is wrong...perhaps there are no real good answers here.</p><p> </p><p>Wonderful that you told your son that you love him and that you don't want to come between him and his wife.</p><p> </p><p>Remember though, that you are "older" and have more experience. </p><p> </p><p>Perhaps he is hoping that although this is a tough spot, you would be able to temper your emotions, etc. </p><p> </p><p>In fact, shake out your emotions....hard...but important.</p><p> </p><p>One thought would be to speak with- the woman very briefly...be cordial...but limit discussions. </p><p> </p><p>Thank her for voicing her opinion. Tell her that sometimes it is good to get things out in the open. That you'll think about her opinions. You always appreciated good/honest and respectful discussion and hope that it would always be in this manner.</p><p> </p><p>Figure out a way to get off the phone...You might say that you are feeling a little uncomfortable or not feeling well and hope that she will respect you in this. </p><p> </p><p>Tell her that you will get back to your son in the future about some things and thank her for the call.</p><p> </p><p>Keep it super duper brief and cordial.</p><p> </p><p>Remember you are the adult. You are in charge of your emotions.</p><p> </p><p>"It's choice, not chance that determines your destiny."</p><p> </p><p>If you are completely unable or uwilling to do something like this, then just continue in this manner....</p><p> </p><p>Assuring your son that you wish you could do more, that you do love him and wish for the lines of communication to be open with him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 300809"] MWM, If you are using actual names in your post...You might consider editing your post to include first initials instead of real names. Someone might be able to identify your family based on these names. It's a small, but real possibility and since other people are involved, it is only fair to grant privacy to all. ETA: I think you changed some of this...nice. It's hard to say what is right and what is wrong...perhaps there are no real good answers here. Wonderful that you told your son that you love him and that you don't want to come between him and his wife. Remember though, that you are "older" and have more experience. Perhaps he is hoping that although this is a tough spot, you would be able to temper your emotions, etc. In fact, shake out your emotions....hard...but important. One thought would be to speak with- the woman very briefly...be cordial...but limit discussions. Thank her for voicing her opinion. Tell her that sometimes it is good to get things out in the open. That you'll think about her opinions. You always appreciated good/honest and respectful discussion and hope that it would always be in this manner. Figure out a way to get off the phone...You might say that you are feeling a little uncomfortable or not feeling well and hope that she will respect you in this. Tell her that you will get back to your son in the future about some things and thank her for the call. Keep it super duper brief and cordial. Remember you are the adult. You are in charge of your emotions. "It's choice, not chance that determines your destiny." If you are completely unable or uwilling to do something like this, then just continue in this manner.... Assuring your son that you wish you could do more, that you do love him and wish for the lines of communication to be open with him. [/QUOTE]
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