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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 631153" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>I think they aren't even thinking when they do this, they are just running crazy in their heads, trying to get us somehow, someway, to do what they want us to do. They will just spout out the most outrageous things, trying to see what sticks to that wall. </p><p></p><p>The calmer we can be when this is happening, and the shorter we can keep that conversation, the better. But I know it is very hard, thinking they really might try something stupid in their panic. Usually, like MWM says often, it will not happen. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I like this, up all night. I like it because it reduces all of the drama, and angst and sadness and fear and despair and craziness to a simple equation. </p><p></p><p>I like the truth of it.</p><p></p><p>And I'm learning that "making it" does not mean on my terms. It will be on his terms, and I need to learn how not only to live in harmony with those terms, but to accept them, set aside my own agenda, fears and need to influence and control, and just accept my son, today, right now, warts and all. </p><p></p><p>What will be will be. It is what it is. I can't do one single solitary thing to change him. </p><p></p><p>I know in our hearts as mothers we are truly so very afraid that they will die young. I believe that is our greatest fear that we often do not speak of, and so it grows and grows until it's the elephant in the room, driving a lot of what we do and say.</p><p></p><p>I have tried to entertain the idea that he may die young. I don't dwell on it, but all over the world, people die young. It happens. It is always sad, and it's something none of us want to happen to anyone. But it does, and that is the way of the world. </p><p></p><p>I'm not trying to be flip about this because it would be the worst thing in the world and I pray that it never happens to any of us. </p><p></p><p>But I can't be with my son 24/7, making things right for him. His life is up to him and whatever he wants to make of it. </p><p></p><p>In the end, he's either gonna make it, or he's not.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 631153, member: 17542"] I think they aren't even thinking when they do this, they are just running crazy in their heads, trying to get us somehow, someway, to do what they want us to do. They will just spout out the most outrageous things, trying to see what sticks to that wall. The calmer we can be when this is happening, and the shorter we can keep that conversation, the better. But I know it is very hard, thinking they really might try something stupid in their panic. Usually, like MWM says often, it will not happen. I like this, up all night. I like it because it reduces all of the drama, and angst and sadness and fear and despair and craziness to a simple equation. I like the truth of it. And I'm learning that "making it" does not mean on my terms. It will be on his terms, and I need to learn how not only to live in harmony with those terms, but to accept them, set aside my own agenda, fears and need to influence and control, and just accept my son, today, right now, warts and all. What will be will be. It is what it is. I can't do one single solitary thing to change him. I know in our hearts as mothers we are truly so very afraid that they will die young. I believe that is our greatest fear that we often do not speak of, and so it grows and grows until it's the elephant in the room, driving a lot of what we do and say. I have tried to entertain the idea that he may die young. I don't dwell on it, but all over the world, people die young. It happens. It is always sad, and it's something none of us want to happen to anyone. But it does, and that is the way of the world. I'm not trying to be flip about this because it would be the worst thing in the world and I pray that it never happens to any of us. But I can't be with my son 24/7, making things right for him. His life is up to him and whatever he wants to make of it. In the end, he's either gonna make it, or he's not. [/QUOTE]
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