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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 288218"><p>How much does your son weigh?</p><p>Would you like to carry him around forever?</p><p>It is very hard, but you have to accept that you can not do the impossible.</p><p>Sure, you can hope that he makes good choices from this point on. And there are good signs that this is what will happen. I think you need to feel good about this. However, you can not make choices for him. If at all possible, you need to let go. Understand, that you have done all that you can and then some to help him move forward and live a better life. It would sting if he were to mess up now. However, if by chance that were to happen, what of it? Maybe he would be able to get back on track faster? </p><p>It is killing you to worry like this. It is breaking your back to carry this burden. Why? Because it was not meant to be. He has to carry his own weight. It is time. Time for him...time for you. You can not fight the laws of nature, so stop doing it. It is a lesson for him and a lesson for you. Let him carry his own burdens. Hope that he will make the right choices...and rejoice in the fact that things are looking positive. Take this opportunity to grow...find strength to give your son's burden's to your son. Find the strength to move forward in life regardless of your son's behavior. Your son has found strength to make better choices. It sounds foreign to you, because it is a new way of thinking....but your son is 18, the rules are different now. Do what you asked your son to do...find your inner strength. Hope for the best, rejoice in the good all around you, understand that you can not control another human being and you decide each and every day to make good choices that will lead to a happy and healthy life. Trust that he will do the best he can and if something should go wrong, trust that some sort of correction will be made and that you will make a choice to be content throughout it all.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 288218"] How much does your son weigh? Would you like to carry him around forever? It is very hard, but you have to accept that you can not do the impossible. Sure, you can hope that he makes good choices from this point on. And there are good signs that this is what will happen. I think you need to feel good about this. However, you can not make choices for him. If at all possible, you need to let go. Understand, that you have done all that you can and then some to help him move forward and live a better life. It would sting if he were to mess up now. However, if by chance that were to happen, what of it? Maybe he would be able to get back on track faster? It is killing you to worry like this. It is breaking your back to carry this burden. Why? Because it was not meant to be. He has to carry his own weight. It is time. Time for him...time for you. You can not fight the laws of nature, so stop doing it. It is a lesson for him and a lesson for you. Let him carry his own burdens. Hope that he will make the right choices...and rejoice in the fact that things are looking positive. Take this opportunity to grow...find strength to give your son's burden's to your son. Find the strength to move forward in life regardless of your son's behavior. Your son has found strength to make better choices. It sounds foreign to you, because it is a new way of thinking....but your son is 18, the rules are different now. Do what you asked your son to do...find your inner strength. Hope for the best, rejoice in the good all around you, understand that you can not control another human being and you decide each and every day to make good choices that will lead to a happy and healthy life. Trust that he will do the best he can and if something should go wrong, trust that some sort of correction will be made and that you will make a choice to be content throughout it all. [/QUOTE]
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