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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 440301" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Given that you are the aunt and uncle, it is not an easy answer. If husband's sister felt the need to spank one of my kdis when they were little? NO problem - they likely had gone so far over the line that a LOT more was warranted - not beating or antyhing, but most likely I would be the type to take them home and not let them go back for a while. But she saw them af ew times a year and it was Disneyland with her (not the place, the everything so fun and wonderful attitude). </p><p></p><p>But if MY brother watned to spank them? I would file a report for assault. He was and is very abusive to me and my kids. NOTHING they do is good enough for him ever. NOTHING. He rarely spanks his own daughter but would beat my child for half of what she does. Literally half and literally beat them black and blue. We were warned wehn we moved back to this area near my family that he was NOT fit to be left alone with them by the PEDIATRICIAN. My mother let him take them for a morning at the lake when they were visiting her. He kept them out in the hot sun for 8 hours and refused to let them put on sunscreen. My daughter was almost hospitalized because it - and had to make four trips to the pediatrician in less than a week to treat and monitor the burns. She and my son had burns that were almost 2 inches across - their medical files have photos of this in them with a ruler to show the scale.</p><p></p><p>Even before that he didn't babysit because the ONE time he did - for 2 hours, he rearranged every closet we had and our kitchen cabinets. He also did something that scared our 2yo son into hiding until we came home. Never did find out what he did, but our son did NOT hide even for hide and seek. </p><p></p><p>A LOT depends on where you are and what relationship you have with the family. To be safe, don't spank any child that isn't yours.</p><p></p><p>I will say that I used to threaten my kids with a "lickin'". I was once followed around a large grocery store until the little old lady saw me give my son his "lickin". I reached out, grabbed his hand and LICKED it. Yuck, yes. But FAR more effective than a spanking for him. He HATED that and would do a LOT most of the time to avoid it. It was non-violent, didn't hurt him in any way, but was far more effective than any spanking ever was. So if you can find something else that will work, it will make things a lot easier on you. My son, now 19, laughs about his "lickins'" but remembers how much he hated them and how they worked better than many things we could have done. Just something to think about.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 440301, member: 1233"] Given that you are the aunt and uncle, it is not an easy answer. If husband's sister felt the need to spank one of my kdis when they were little? NO problem - they likely had gone so far over the line that a LOT more was warranted - not beating or antyhing, but most likely I would be the type to take them home and not let them go back for a while. But she saw them af ew times a year and it was Disneyland with her (not the place, the everything so fun and wonderful attitude). But if MY brother watned to spank them? I would file a report for assault. He was and is very abusive to me and my kids. NOTHING they do is good enough for him ever. NOTHING. He rarely spanks his own daughter but would beat my child for half of what she does. Literally half and literally beat them black and blue. We were warned wehn we moved back to this area near my family that he was NOT fit to be left alone with them by the PEDIATRICIAN. My mother let him take them for a morning at the lake when they were visiting her. He kept them out in the hot sun for 8 hours and refused to let them put on sunscreen. My daughter was almost hospitalized because it - and had to make four trips to the pediatrician in less than a week to treat and monitor the burns. She and my son had burns that were almost 2 inches across - their medical files have photos of this in them with a ruler to show the scale. Even before that he didn't babysit because the ONE time he did - for 2 hours, he rearranged every closet we had and our kitchen cabinets. He also did something that scared our 2yo son into hiding until we came home. Never did find out what he did, but our son did NOT hide even for hide and seek. A LOT depends on where you are and what relationship you have with the family. To be safe, don't spank any child that isn't yours. I will say that I used to threaten my kids with a "lickin'". I was once followed around a large grocery store until the little old lady saw me give my son his "lickin". I reached out, grabbed his hand and LICKED it. Yuck, yes. But FAR more effective than a spanking for him. He HATED that and would do a LOT most of the time to avoid it. It was non-violent, didn't hurt him in any way, but was far more effective than any spanking ever was. So if you can find something else that will work, it will make things a lot easier on you. My son, now 19, laughs about his "lickins'" but remembers how much he hated them and how they worked better than many things we could have done. Just something to think about. [/QUOTE]
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