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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 440610" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>It's illegal to spank your kids in New Zealand. That law came in just as we were heading there on holiday. There are cultural reasons for it as well as other reasons. </p><p></p><p>We found that spanking a difficult child only led to more problems for us. That doesn't mean we didn't spank; but with hindsight, it was not the best option for us.</p><p></p><p>Our kids all went to child care at some stage, and the staff there were not permitted to spank, so they had other really good strategies in place. We just picked up on those and used them. However, at home sometimes I'd spank, or in the car. I followed my mother's example and carried a bright red plastic fly swat. She always said the bright colour would warn the kids to not mess with mum. The swat made a satisfying whistling sound as you brandished it, but it never hurt the kid. And if ever a kid said, "That didn't hurt!" my response generally was, "If I meant it to hurt, I would have hit harder. The aim is not to hurt; the aim is to teach."</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 440610, member: 1991"] It's illegal to spank your kids in New Zealand. That law came in just as we were heading there on holiday. There are cultural reasons for it as well as other reasons. We found that spanking a difficult child only led to more problems for us. That doesn't mean we didn't spank; but with hindsight, it was not the best option for us. Our kids all went to child care at some stage, and the staff there were not permitted to spank, so they had other really good strategies in place. We just picked up on those and used them. However, at home sometimes I'd spank, or in the car. I followed my mother's example and carried a bright red plastic fly swat. She always said the bright colour would warn the kids to not mess with mum. The swat made a satisfying whistling sound as you brandished it, but it never hurt the kid. And if ever a kid said, "That didn't hurt!" my response generally was, "If I meant it to hurt, I would have hit harder. The aim is not to hurt; the aim is to teach." Marg [/QUOTE]
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