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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 441184" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Oh, heck, so I'm an abuser?</p><p></p><p>First off, I agree, that with-most of our g'sfg, spanking only infuriates them more. Most of us have learned that it literally hurts us more than it hurts our kids.</p><p>Our kids do not feal fear or fear authority the way we do. </p><p></p><p>I used soap with-my son and it worked. Well, at least until he became a teenager. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p>The first time, he had no idea what was going on. He used the F-word and called me a B----. I told him that was wrong, it was hurtful and rude, and to stop it. He did it again. Totally defiant. I held the soap in my hand and told him to come over and bite it. He did, just enough to put marks on the soap.</p><p>Oh, the look on his face! (This makes a great dinnertime story now and he loves to hear it.)</p><p>So, the next time, which was about 6 mo's later, he wasn't going to fall for the soap again ... so I put a drop of liquid soap on my finger, waited a second until he screamed at me, and while his mouth was open, I wiped my finger on his tongue.</p><p>He was much angrier that I one-upped him than about the taste of the soap. He hated (and still hates) the fact that I'm in charge.</p><p></p><p><strong>The issue here isn't really soap or spanking. It's losing control. </strong>The laws are always passed for the lowest common denominator. Very sad, because we end up with-some really rididulous laws most of the time.</p><p>End of soapbox.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 441184, member: 3419"] Oh, heck, so I'm an abuser? First off, I agree, that with-most of our g'sfg, spanking only infuriates them more. Most of us have learned that it literally hurts us more than it hurts our kids. Our kids do not feal fear or fear authority the way we do. I used soap with-my son and it worked. Well, at least until he became a teenager. :) The first time, he had no idea what was going on. He used the F-word and called me a B----. I told him that was wrong, it was hurtful and rude, and to stop it. He did it again. Totally defiant. I held the soap in my hand and told him to come over and bite it. He did, just enough to put marks on the soap. Oh, the look on his face! (This makes a great dinnertime story now and he loves to hear it.) So, the next time, which was about 6 mo's later, he wasn't going to fall for the soap again ... so I put a drop of liquid soap on my finger, waited a second until he screamed at me, and while his mouth was open, I wiped my finger on his tongue. He was much angrier that I one-upped him than about the taste of the soap. He hated (and still hates) the fact that I'm in charge. [B]The issue here isn't really soap or spanking. It's losing control. [/B]The laws are always passed for the lowest common denominator. Very sad, because we end up with-some really rididulous laws most of the time. End of soapbox. [/QUOTE]
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