Jules - not sure where your difficult child is at with his skill set, but I'm guessing he's no where close to independence on the school's chosen target.
From the list you posted, some early appropriate goals could include things like:
Objective #4 Follow the direction to take a time out when asked by teacher.
Objective #11 Identify way(s) to ease frustration in hypothetical situations.
Objective #12 Identify signs of frustration in self.
Objective #18 Name alternative, appropriate ways to express emotions (pleasure, anger, and/or frustration).
Objective #25 Use appropriate methods to reduce anxiety and stress in real and simulated situations
Objective #29 Identify behaviors which demonstrate self-control.
If he can't identify the situations, and identify the appropriate reactions, at a theoretical level, he's never going to get there in real life. Getting there in theory... is just a very early step.
You can't cross a chasm in multiple steps - but you can't learn a new skillset in a single leap. Break it down to the skills that are just within his current reach, and build from there.
