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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 127106" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Susan, ultimately you don't know whether your son is using drugs in prison or not.</p><p></p><p>Think about the fact that if your son were still outside, then he would almost certainly be using drugs. Therefore, he is better off where he is. In jail, he has shelter, food, and a place to sit and reflect on his life and decide what he wants to do with himself. </p><p></p><p>I understand that it's very hard not knowing and not having a plan. I am a planner too, and it's very hard to have a terrible situation that is not within your control. But that's the key...it is not within your control. No matter what you do or don't do, the situation is out of your hands. </p><p></p><p>Your son will make of this time what he sees fit to. Whether he gets something out of his time in jail and comes out a better man, or he bides his time and returns to GFGdom, it's out of your hands. You can pray, you can hope, but you can't control the situation. And continuing to do things gives you the illusion that you can control things, which in turn causes you more hurt and frustration and pain.</p><p></p><p>What you have to do now is let go and let God. Stop trying. Just let things happen. Focus on you, husband, easy child son and easy child daughter. But especially on you.</p><p></p><p>Detachment 101. Keep on practicing, you'll get there.</p><p></p><p>All the best,</p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 127106, member: 3907"] Susan, ultimately you don't know whether your son is using drugs in prison or not. Think about the fact that if your son were still outside, then he would almost certainly be using drugs. Therefore, he is better off where he is. In jail, he has shelter, food, and a place to sit and reflect on his life and decide what he wants to do with himself. I understand that it's very hard not knowing and not having a plan. I am a planner too, and it's very hard to have a terrible situation that is not within your control. But that's the key...it is not within your control. No matter what you do or don't do, the situation is out of your hands. Your son will make of this time what he sees fit to. Whether he gets something out of his time in jail and comes out a better man, or he bides his time and returns to GFGdom, it's out of your hands. You can pray, you can hope, but you can't control the situation. And continuing to do things gives you the illusion that you can control things, which in turn causes you more hurt and frustration and pain. What you have to do now is let go and let God. Stop trying. Just let things happen. Focus on you, husband, easy child son and easy child daughter. But especially on you. Detachment 101. Keep on practicing, you'll get there. All the best, Trinity [/QUOTE]
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