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<blockquote data-quote="ScentofCedar" data-source="post: 82515" data-attributes="member: 3353"><p><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: hearthope</div><div class="ubbcode-body"></p><p></p><p>In my view, addiction is something that takes over your life.</p><p></p><p>An addict only thinks of getting high, nothing else matters to them.</p><p></p><p>In my 'addiction' to changing my son, I was consumed by it. Nothing else mattered as long as I could get my son to change.</p><p></p><p>I let everything else in my life go on the back burner and all my thoughts and strengths went into 'helping' him.</p><p></p><p>I believe there has to be a healthy balance, that is why I used the word addiction to start with.</p><p></p><p>In an addiction you are totally consumed. It can't be good for any of us to let everything in our lives go and live only to change the path that our child takes.</p><p></p><p>You can't be fully consumed by your difficult child and continue to be a healthy person and give to the others in your life that need you too.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Traci </div></div></p><p></p><p>Wow, Traci.</p><p></p><p>That is JUST what it feels like to be consumed by thoughts of a child (even if he IS thrity-two! :shocked: ) going the wrong way.</p><p></p><p>I never looked at it like that before ~ using those words, I mean.</p><p></p><p>It takes great strength of character to beat an addiction.</p><p></p><p>Yet, I have never considered my capacity to take the helm again and steer my life in a different direction than the one I thought I was creating and would be living a strength.</p><p></p><p>It is, though.</p><p></p><p>And each one of us has done that.</p><p></p><p>What amazing women (and men) we must all be.</p><p></p><p>I literally never thought of my response to difficult child's addiciton as a courageous taking control of my own situation before, Traci.</p><p></p><p>What an insightful comment.</p><p></p><p> :smile:</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ScentofCedar, post: 82515, member: 3353"] <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: hearthope</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> In my view, addiction is something that takes over your life. An addict only thinks of getting high, nothing else matters to them. In my 'addiction' to changing my son, I was consumed by it. Nothing else mattered as long as I could get my son to change. I let everything else in my life go on the back burner and all my thoughts and strengths went into 'helping' him. I believe there has to be a healthy balance, that is why I used the word addiction to start with. In an addiction you are totally consumed. It can't be good for any of us to let everything in our lives go and live only to change the path that our child takes. You can't be fully consumed by your difficult child and continue to be a healthy person and give to the others in your life that need you too. Traci </div></div> Wow, Traci. That is JUST what it feels like to be consumed by thoughts of a child (even if he IS thrity-two! [img]:shocked:[/img] ) going the wrong way. I never looked at it like that before ~ using those words, I mean. It takes great strength of character to beat an addiction. Yet, I have never considered my capacity to take the helm again and steer my life in a different direction than the one I thought I was creating and would be living a strength. It is, though. And each one of us has done that. What amazing women (and men) we must all be. I literally never thought of my response to difficult child's addiciton as a courageous taking control of my own situation before, Traci. What an insightful comment. [img]:smile:[/img] Barbara [/QUOTE]
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