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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 749331" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>Yes, I paid everything for my Kay. At one time I would have bought concert tickets sending extra money for food. Stupid me. Most of the money went to pot and not what she asked for or said they were for. And my husband and I now marvel that we ever considered paying for Lee and Kay's entertainment. Or bought them a house, a mobile home, paid their rent etc., cars etc. It's like we read this forum and woke up!</p><p></p><p>The facts are that our Kay is now 33, completely selfish and entitled, very child like, and unable to take care of herself. She and her lazy husband Lee have no idea how to delay gratification and if they cant get money from us, and we have stopped, they ask Lee's parents or panhandle. The panhandling shamed us into signing for a nice apartment but they refused to pay the utilities so it didnt last. Nothing we paid for lasted. Plus they have a child whom they raise in a very odd way. No vaccines or regular doctors. Just homeopaths. We would like to save the child but cps said we would need to prove abuse which we cant. Not vaccinating isnt abuse and they have medical pot cards and the child is doing okay healthwise so far. Apparently a tragedy must happen first. They dont beat him and he is well fed. Bare bones. </p><p></p><p>I am on a rant. Much of how you feel and what you said hit home. We never hear from Kay if we dont fund her life. She doesnt care about us. She never has. At least not since she hit her teens. It hurts I know. I am in Al Anon. It helps.</p><p></p><p>I cant tell you what to do. Nobody could tell us either. I can only post our story. Right now my dear husband and I are on vacation with our phones off and it has been so healing. We planned on staying a week, because our business is busy in the summer, but we are staying until we feel ready to go back. Plans changed.</p><p></p><p>I hope you do what is best for you. I think you need to step back, think things over, and make a decision when you are calm. Emotional decisions were always my downfall. I would panic about my baby girl and my husband would give in. We decided to no longer do anything in the heat of emotions. Kay is not a little girl anymore. I tend to go back to think of her as a little girl when I panic.</p><p></p><p>Wait is my best bit of advice. Calm down first and think. Take care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 749331, member: 23706"] Yes, I paid everything for my Kay. At one time I would have bought concert tickets sending extra money for food. Stupid me. Most of the money went to pot and not what she asked for or said they were for. And my husband and I now marvel that we ever considered paying for Lee and Kay's entertainment. Or bought them a house, a mobile home, paid their rent etc., cars etc. It's like we read this forum and woke up! The facts are that our Kay is now 33, completely selfish and entitled, very child like, and unable to take care of herself. She and her lazy husband Lee have no idea how to delay gratification and if they cant get money from us, and we have stopped, they ask Lee's parents or panhandle. The panhandling shamed us into signing for a nice apartment but they refused to pay the utilities so it didnt last. Nothing we paid for lasted. Plus they have a child whom they raise in a very odd way. No vaccines or regular doctors. Just homeopaths. We would like to save the child but cps said we would need to prove abuse which we cant. Not vaccinating isnt abuse and they have medical pot cards and the child is doing okay healthwise so far. Apparently a tragedy must happen first. They dont beat him and he is well fed. Bare bones. I am on a rant. Much of how you feel and what you said hit home. We never hear from Kay if we dont fund her life. She doesnt care about us. She never has. At least not since she hit her teens. It hurts I know. I am in Al Anon. It helps. I cant tell you what to do. Nobody could tell us either. I can only post our story. Right now my dear husband and I are on vacation with our phones off and it has been so healing. We planned on staying a week, because our business is busy in the summer, but we are staying until we feel ready to go back. Plans changed. I hope you do what is best for you. I think you need to step back, think things over, and make a decision when you are calm. Emotional decisions were always my downfall. I would panic about my baby girl and my husband would give in. We decided to no longer do anything in the heat of emotions. Kay is not a little girl anymore. I tend to go back to think of her as a little girl when I panic. Wait is my best bit of advice. Calm down first and think. Take care. [/QUOTE]
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