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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 749357" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>This is going to be hard for me to share because it is so hurtful. And we tried to ignore it. But many of us here, including me, lost our kid long ago. When our own kids never call to ask how we are or to ask about anything other than what we can do to help them, they are lost. Honestly, my neighbors ask about our welfare and what we are doing, but Kay does not ask or care. My other kids talk to us, worry about us and are like good friends. We have a give and take relationship with our neighbors, our other two kids and friends/ extended family. But not with Kay. Hers is a one wy relationship. We give her money or we are basically cut out of her life and our grandson's life. Its true. Yes, giving her money would get her to call us and may even get her to agree to give us our grandson once in a while. Until we displease her and that means saying no to anything. </p><p></p><p>Trying, in the big picture, $130 wont save your son or change his life for the better nor make him be caring towards you. Or sober and on the right track.</p><p></p><p>Our daughter is so helpless by all our enabling that she wont even call for a dental or doctor appointment. We either call (or Lee) or she wont go. She cooks microwave food only. She never cleans. Lee does sometimes or their place would be a pit. Actually it is. Lee doesnt do a good job. Both are always high on pot and low on money. I never tell Kay about ill family members anymore. She doesnt care. The best I get from her is a quick, insincere "Oh, too bad." She doesnt visit them.</p><p></p><p>Is she my daughter,? In my heart I always will hold her close and with love. My heart screams YES! But she doesnt love us in a normal family way. We are just money to her. I lost her and there is nothing we can do to her or for her to get her back. She is so cold to us, often referring to us by our first names, which kills me.</p><p></p><p>Whatever you decide to do, it will not turn your son around or give you the relationship you want to have with him. Remember that please when you decide what to do. Be well. Prayers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 749357, member: 23706"] This is going to be hard for me to share because it is so hurtful. And we tried to ignore it. But many of us here, including me, lost our kid long ago. When our own kids never call to ask how we are or to ask about anything other than what we can do to help them, they are lost. Honestly, my neighbors ask about our welfare and what we are doing, but Kay does not ask or care. My other kids talk to us, worry about us and are like good friends. We have a give and take relationship with our neighbors, our other two kids and friends/ extended family. But not with Kay. Hers is a one wy relationship. We give her money or we are basically cut out of her life and our grandson's life. Its true. Yes, giving her money would get her to call us and may even get her to agree to give us our grandson once in a while. Until we displease her and that means saying no to anything. Trying, in the big picture, $130 wont save your son or change his life for the better nor make him be caring towards you. Or sober and on the right track. Our daughter is so helpless by all our enabling that she wont even call for a dental or doctor appointment. We either call (or Lee) or she wont go. She cooks microwave food only. She never cleans. Lee does sometimes or their place would be a pit. Actually it is. Lee doesnt do a good job. Both are always high on pot and low on money. I never tell Kay about ill family members anymore. She doesnt care. The best I get from her is a quick, insincere "Oh, too bad." She doesnt visit them. Is she my daughter,? In my heart I always will hold her close and with love. My heart screams YES! But she doesnt love us in a normal family way. We are just money to her. I lost her and there is nothing we can do to her or for her to get her back. She is so cold to us, often referring to us by our first names, which kills me. Whatever you decide to do, it will not turn your son around or give you the relationship you want to have with him. Remember that please when you decide what to do. Be well. Prayers. [/QUOTE]
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